Retired: Alone in a crowded room

As a carpenter of over 40 years one poor choice cost me my job.

I got enough work to reach early retirement age and got out when I could. Since my pension and banking income would now be half of what I previously earned I scrambled to earn what I could in a small side business.

We were ok for a year and even enjoyed a nice vacation. After reviewing my books and preparing taxes, I realized things could get tight and my mind came under the burden of providing adequately for my family.

It got to the point that I would wake in the morning with darkness and depression hanging like a cloud over me before I even entertained the first thoughts of the day.

I prayed a lot and counseled with good friends and my pastor. I got sadder and angrier and began to see my family relationships deteriorate. Friends stayed at my side and pushed me to get help.

Believe it or not I found this website and read most of the postings and began to feel relief. Seeing so many in the same position as myself I somehow felt better. I am not alone.

I also see so many different situations and answers that I have hope of recovery. I will continue to watch this space. When we suffer alone there is no hope. When we suffer together we feed off one another and find common strength.

I have decided to move forward and continue in my small carpentry business and be a responsible man, doing what I know is best.

I am continuing to pray for peace in my mind and I know that one great way to achieve this is to be there for others. My motto... Never Give Up


Wendy: This post says it all! I am so happy that my website provided even a hint of relief for you. Yes, Life goes on...

You sound like you have common sense, and a sense of direction for your retired life. Your small business will be just what you need it to be -- as small or as busy as you hope for.

I bet your friends will be thrilled to see that smile again... and will help you find new project to work on.

Mostly, just wanted to say that I am so humbled when I read words like yours. That is why I am the workaholic retiree that I am! Oh yeah!

Thank you... You made my day, week, Year!!