2021 -- Sure glad it's almost over! 2022--BringIt!
by Wendy, Retirement Enthusiast/Coach
Written in July 2021: Mom fell and broke her right shoulder and hip three weeks after Papa died.
My father (technically step-dad) is dying. He collapsed a week ago Friday night and we've spent the week in the hospital. I am so grateful that we were accepted into the hospital hospice program, so he doesn't have to be moved. He is comfortable with family at his side daily. Mom holds his hand for 12 hours each day, side by side, at age 95... she is exhausted.
It's odd how, logically, intellectually, at 93, he is fragile -- it's been more and more difficult to help him at home. Then something happens, and you are in shock! I am in overwhelm mode. I admit it. Everything moves so slowly in the hospital and yet, quickly with so many decisions daily on his care, updates, too much to comprehend.
It's odd how you know, logically, intellectually, that at 93, he is fragile -- it's been more and more difficult to help him at home. Then something happens, and you are in shock! I am in overwhelm mode. I admit it.
My sister has taken on most of the legwork, paperwork, consultations. Full of Gratitude for her! We are both very different but we sync together beautifully to get the job done!
Can't believe I've stayed overnight with him at the hospital in the midst of COVID! It's true -- you do what you have to do, and I did.
July 19, 2021 -- Chuck died.
Oddly enough, I can't seem to write my thoughts. What I have written remains unpublished. I have no closure on this.
December 2021 (six months post-death):
When I look back, I can't believe what has happened. Another huge life experience in death paperwork, hospitals, rehab, assisted living, and so much more.
One long week in the hospital, rod placed in the hip, mentally out of it.
Moved to Rehab Facility. Small movements, mini movements, brought her to slowly use her leg again. She will likely never walk again, but she can help move from a wheelchair to where she needs to go. She can walk with a walker a bit too.
Mom is tenacious about doing her rehab, at 95! I am amazed at her courage and strength. She was very fortunate to stay 8-weeks in Rehab as Medicare only pays when you are making progress... I witnessed many who had to leave much earlier, and they weren't doing well.
Mom was moved after eight weeks to Assisted Living.
She uses a wheelchair to get to the dining room and other meeting places. She has a few friends and enjoys chatting with people again. She is a social lady and is enjoying living a new lifestyle.
** I do have to add, mom wanted to die through all of this. It was very painful. She hated being totally dependant on everyone. "Why can't I go with Chuck and just die?" It wasn't a bed of roses. We had many hard talks and at 95, she chose life.
2022, I am waiting for you!
You simply must be better than 2021!
I am off now to help set up the Bingo Store at Mom's Assisted Living. They win Bingo Bucks which they spend at the Bingo store! Fun Fun!
Happy Holidays to All.
Good Bye 2021!