Bored Out Of My Mind

by Anonymous

I get up in the morning and the first thought that pops in my head is what the hell am I going to do today?


I worked my whole life and retired at a early age of 52, I was a carpenter and considered myself lucky to retire with a good pension and all the time in the world to do what I want when I want.

I soon found out that this was the one thing that would lead me down the path of depression and over thinking my life.

I should also mention I'm divorced with no children and very few hobbies but that never seem to matter before because hung out with many acquaintances.

What happens is people go in different directions and I found myself on the outside looking in.

I am in desperate search of what to do with my life to bring satisfaction and not just be existing out here waiting to die.

I am somewhat of a health nut, I exercise and eat healthy everyday and try to stay away from the party lifestyle so I don't end up a lonely old man sitting at the end of a bar.

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Bored
by: Louisect

I was just thinking about other things you could do.

You are a carpenter and there are tons of wooden things you could make and sell. Etsy is a good place to sell handmade things. You should take a look and see what things sell. A friend of mine bought me a cutting board that had a design burned into it and my name is on it. Custom wooden puzzles, coasters, signs, boxes...here is a link to scroll thru to see interesting items to make and sell

https://www.etsy.com/search?q=wooden&order=most_relevant&view_type=gallery&ship_to=US

Hope this helps!

IDEAS
by: Louisect

Zen, It would be great if you could post a list of your ideas! We all have different needs and good ideas are welcomed!

Good News re retirement
by: Zen Roth

Hey,

If you need something to do then I have a list so big it will take you a 1000 years.

If I was a carpenter then I would offer my services for free plus the cost of materials.

There are literally millions of people who you could help.

You could take up a course in anything.

If you get stuck give me a shout.

Cheers
Zen

Ideas to keep busy
by: Louisect

My first thought would be, since you are a carpenter, would be for you to build different pieces of furniture like end tables, coffee tables, benches, head boards/bed frames.

If you know someone with similar talents, you could get them to help you to paint or varnish the pieces. Another idea would be to focus on one type of furniture like a bench and make a 'kit' with the lumber needed, the screws, brackets plus very good written instructions for the buyer to assemble the unit. Advertise, sell, ship.

Another thing might be a handyman service to make new cabinet doors for existing kitchen cabinets, new doors for barns, etc.

There is a guy I know who is a handyman at a Mobile Home park and he does everything. He has so much business he has people working for him. He puts in new floors, roofs, updates bathrooms, paints, tunes up furnaces, mows lawns and shovels in the winter. He also fixes the skirting around the mobile homes when the wind blows them down. This guy could work 24 hours a day! He will do just about anything you can imagine.

Really?
by: Still working/NJ

Volunteer for habitat for humanity if you are a carpenter. Plenty can never retire or conversely cannot find work. Be thankful, and do something with your talents!

Try never being able to retire
by: Caregiver

So some retiree, 83, who had no business driving, permanently disables my spouse who just 3 months prior graduated with almost 100K in school loans, and us with a newly built 330K house.

Fast forward 12 years, I his caregiver and raising our child, lose our house, wreck our credit (some 500K worth of surgeries in), and have no way to pay off his school loans...and certainly no way, ever, for me to retire.

Moral of the story, quit whining and get a hobby, a girlfriend and volunteer if you are bored. You earned your retirement...now go out and do something with it!

Retired and bored
by: keith

As others have said. First 6 months great even though I was made redundant.

Time moved on and being at home all the time with no friends (colleges) to interact with makes life boring.

Thought I could do some hobbies but materials and room a problem. Materials cost money have little of that. Enthusiasm gone with no challenges that work provided on a daily basis.

Family create their own problems giving more headache's.

Even getting a simple job requires these modern CV's asking the world and team workers. Walking around shops baa humbug.

Retirement is not what I expected.

Forced out. Now I'm bored.
by: Freeway Willy

Dear Freeway Willy...

Your story has been moved to its own page... please click on What's New to find it. I wanted other retirees to have the opportunity to connect and help you... thus moving your story. I hope you don't mind! Wendy

A carpenter?
by: John

You said you were a carpenter. What did that entail? Have you thought about engaging in the artistic side of your profession? Custom furniture, perhaps, or even art pieces?

I'm 48, and one of the millions who have been forcibly "put out to pasture" of late. For our age group and the generations following us, there will be no "retirement." In fact, I don't care for the word and its implications.

The reality is that "retirement" is actually a career change. We stop doing whatever we were doing, and (hopefully) move on to something that is equally rewarding. I suspect that viewing and planning for the event in this way would eliminate many of the problems I see retirees writing about here.

Just don't give up. Your niche is out there, and you will find it.

Talent and no place to go
by: JGray

i was laid off at 63 and would have continued working. Then I was really bored and felt useless, so I applied and went tp graduate school, divinity school—something I'd always had an interest in. This was at the time of the "crash." After three years the school lost a lot of funding and reduced my scholarship significantly so I couldn't continue.

Now I have many volunteer activities but none that requires enough time or creativity from me, and I feel I've got all this energy and talent and no place to put it, if you know what I mean. I live alone and have no family, and no money. That combination is difficult too. Friends travel a lot, but I cannot.

Still looking for that one great passion.

Wendy J, if you need something creative, start a website. You can do whatever you choose there, in terms of look and feel, then write and teach people on any topic (divinity or something else), then develop a community, a following, and earn income. Write to me under the Contact (bottom left) and let me help you find the way... seriously fun, challenging and creativity unlimited.

Bored and going Nuts
by: Anonymous

Yes, me too. I retired at age 52, after 33 years at a job I loved.

I have no grandchildren, and am tired of being lonely. I don't have friends that I can depend on and family is a hot mess. I have a great husband and son, both do not work, nor do they want do, they like living off my retirement fund which makes me very short on funds. I've done my part of supporting my family.

I thought this was suppose to be my time.

I hear ya'
by: Nancy

I know the feeling. My husband is on disability and I was staying at home to help him out. So, when I turned 62 I applied for my early retirement to help supplement his income amount.

Now he's doing better and it's wow what to do today and blank comes up lol. Well, gee what's on tv tonight lol. Oh, something to look forward to...watch tv tonight lol.

I know what you mean sometimes it feels like we're just existing here waiting to die. Yikes, that's a cheery thought lol. Well, anyway that felt better to see my thoughts such as they are in writing.

Good luck to you.

Me too.
by: Anonymous

Retired last October at age 60.
Often I kick myself,thinking I made a big mistake and left a lot of money "on the table".
This Spring/Summmer I took up fly fishing and that has kept me busy.
Maybe I will do some part time work ... But I'm in no hurry.
Now I Like doing things on my own time and pace.
No bosses' no meetings, no job pressures.

Marking time till I drop off the twig.
by: Anonymous

That's exactly how I felt even though I was involved in other interests and volunteer work.

Everything seemed so pointless.

However, on having a complete change of scene - going on a holiday abroad, things looked so much different on my return.

I would suggest that you plan and book a holiday abroad. Somewhere quite exotic compared to your current existence.

Even buying new clothes for a completely different environment can make you look at yourself in a completely new way.

Bored out of my mind
by: Anonymous

A month or two ago, I would have said this would never be me - but....I'm almost 70 - have been retired since December 12 - and the first few months FLEW - had fun w/my retirement check (too MUCH fun) went to Ireland, etc. got my life and papers organized finally - and now ?? I know I need to go back to work part-time.

The painful reality is that for the first time in my life I realize while I have a sharp mind to bring to the office (was an admin. asst for over 35 years) physically, I'm TIRED... my hearing is SHOT, and due to mobility issues - can't stand on my feet for very long - so it would need to be a job "behind the scenes" -pushing pencils, etc. (or is that paper)....

While I am NOT bored at all, I also don't feel I'm living my life to it's fullest potential these days - so look forward to other's comments and suggestions not only to you but to other's feeling as you are.

Make New Friends
by: Sunie Levin

Make new friends of all ages. You will not be bored, especially younger friends who open doors to new ideas for you to explore.

My book "Make New Friends Live Longer" tells you how to become proactive when you retire or leave your job.

At age 82 I am never bored. I enjoy meeting new people. Use your computer and try out social media. Go to your local library and join an interesting group.

Good luck.

Sunie Levin
http://www.makenewfriendslivelonger.com

Life starts @ 65
by: Anonymous

you are very healthy and lucky... fellow, please volunteer so many kids need your help, your input on life, and your love.

Bored................Why?
by: Jeff hall

I live alone as well and I understand what it's like to be on the outside looking in.

But that was back then, now I volunteer and I am meeting so many different people. Each one has so much to offer that I feel so lucky to talk to them and share ideas on so many parts of living for today.

Set around if you want, but there is so much going on around you if you want to get into things. It's all up to you.

Scared of the same thing
by: plp

I am retiring in six months and I am truly afraid of the same thing. I think I'll get busy on projects, but really the projects bore me now and so why would they excite me when I am retired?

I really will look for a part-time job...what I have no idea. I am a administrative assistant so hopefully I can do something part-time in that field. I will be 64 when I retire - I look forward and dread this all in one.

WHY??
by: Anonymous

I don't understand why anyone would retire at 52, unless a medical condition made it necessary. We have so much to give and so much experience to offer!

Instead of retiring early, I went into staff development where I could pass along my accumulated knowledge and experience. Those were happy productive years.

Bored
by: Anonymous

I am afraid of the same thing...watch too much tv...what is my purpose...this is scary

Ditto
by: Anonymous

Life is lonely without a family or friends.

New Interests
by: Sandy

This is the perfect time to explore something NEW.
Why not volunteer? Take a trip? Take a class. Use your talent to develop a new hobby. There must be lots of women who would like to keep you company...get out there!

Reach out!
by: Sheila

Bored? What did you do before retirement? You have skills and knowledge that you can share with others. Use them, free of charge.

It's a wonderful feeling knowing you are helping someone else who is having difficulty coping with their own retirement.

I always say that someone who is bored has no imagination. Do you accept that label?

help for boredom
by: Anonymous

Since you are a practical person with good skills why don't you vplunteer to help in overseas programs?

You will learn many interesting things while making an important contribution to the world.

I have a keen interest in a program that builds orphanages in the Spanish world to the south of us.

Just heard this morning about a building program in Nigeria.

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