The Winter of Our Lives

by John A
(Tyler, TX)

THIS IS RIGHT ON THE NOSE. .......READ IT SLOWLY... I DON'T KNOW WHO WROTE IT, BUT I AM GUESSING IT WAS A SENIOR!!! I FIRST STARTED READING THIS EMAIL AND WAS READING FAST UNTIL I REACHED THE THIRD SENTENCE. I STOPPED AND STARTED OVER READING SLOWER AND THINKING ABOUT EVERY WORD. THIS EMAIL IS VERY THOUGHT-PROVOKING. MAKES YOU STOP AND THINK.

AND THEN IT IS WINTER

You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years.

It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams. But, here it is... the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise...How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go?

I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

But, here it is...my friends are retired and getting grey...they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me...but, I see the great change....Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant...but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we'd be.

Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore... it's mandatory! Cause if I don't on my own free will... I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so...now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!

But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I'm not sure how long it will last...this I know, that when it's over on this earth...it's NOT over. A new adventure will begin! Always remember we are spiritual beings on a physical trip and we will return to that realm to stand before that great spirit who first created us!

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn't done...things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I'm happy to have done. It's all in a lifetime.

So, if you're not in your winter yet...let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don't put things off too long!

Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life...so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember...and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past! There will come a day for all of us when the opportunity to say, "I love you", "I'm sorry", or "I forgive you", will have passed. Please don't miss your cue, it may not come again.

"Life" is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.

LIVE IT WELL! ENJOY TODAY!
DO SOMETHING FUN!
BE HAPPY!
HAVE A GREAT DAY!

REMEMBER:....
It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.

LIVE HAPPY IN THIS YEAR AND EVERY YEAR!

LASTLY, CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING:

TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU'VE EVER BEEN, YET THE YOUNGEST YOU'LL EVER BE SO - ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS.

~Your kids are becoming you.......
~Going out is good.. Coming home is better!
~You forget names.... But it's OK because other people forgot they even knew you!!!
~You realize you're never going to be really good at anything
~The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do, but you really do care that you don't care to do them anymore.
~You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It's called "pre-sleep".
~You miss the days when everything worked with just an "ON" and "OFF" switch..
~You tend to use more 4 letter words ... "what?"..."when?"... "what?" . ???
~Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it's not safe to wear it anywhere.
~You notice everything they sell in stores is "sleeveless"?!!!
~What used to be freckles are now liver spots.
~Everybody whispers.
~You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet.... 2 of which you will never wear.
~But Old is good in some things: Old Songs, Old movies, and best of all, OLD FRIENDS!!

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New Life
by: Dude

I cant tell if you are happy or sad. Sounds like you have one foot out the door!

I remember so many years ago as a child, lying on my back on new mowed grass on a endless summer day and watching the clouds drift by.

I now have that chance again!

Being self employed for so many years, I kind of left apart of me behind.

Now I have the chance to start new again! The worry and stress I carried with the business is now behind me. Feels good to be free of all that!

I am looking to get into Voiceover work and have set up a small studio in my home. It's actually the closet under the stairway in are old farm house. :)

Most people my age have come out of the closet by now, and I laugh that I am going back in!

Have a great day!

Dude

Winter of your life John A
by: Ken, San Diego

John A!

You hit the nail on the head about retirement and getting older* (I always say *older, because I always want to ward away from the final destination *OLD! )

I retired Aug 11, 2016 1:00PM (yep I even know the time) The first 3 months I was doing ok, but then the 4th & 5th month arrived, and? Where is my routine? (I don't have any)

p.s. I do like the part of staying up all hours, sleeping in, going on spontaneous breakfast, lunch, and dinner outings ..I keep procrastinating about setting up some types of goals etc. I guess I quit setting goals because most of the goals I set, never materialized.

My mail for the most part has been solicitations for long term care facilities, morticians and Cremation services. (prankster that I am, I returned one of the envelopes to the Cremation place, some nicely crushed up incense ashes, with a note enclosed "This is my brother, My sister will be in the next envelope" ;-)

All you retirees have a great day, and week! and don't make any prank calls! (hmmm maybe I should?)

Wendy: KEN! Did you really send those ashes to the Cremation place? Too funny!


Thanks for sharing
by: Donna Augusta, Mo

Ah this is wonderful. As I read it I laughed, reminisced and reflected. You are a great teller of life.

"Life"
by: ricardo

John from Tyler, this is "spot on", and I relate to EVERYTHING in the post......snap a finger, and you ARE the old person that you thought that you would NEVER become......but view it this way, some people NEVER had the opportunity to live, love, become a husband, wife, or grandparent.

Be thankful for the fact that you are still alive and appreciate ALL the things in life that you once took for granted, for some have NEVER had the opportunity to grow old!

Great!
by: Sue/Colorado

A GREAT article. I often wonder how I got to my 60s. It went by so fast and I have so many regrets.

Wouldn't it be great to raise my kids again with the knowledge I have now??

Learning to let go of the regrets and focus on the many blessings in my life.

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