As a Retirement Coach, I feel a deep need to help those who get "stuck" in retirement.
Just when we should be living life on our terms, we feel lost. How and why does that happen?
It happens to many, and I've been there too. One day you are someone at work (doesn't matter if you are CEO, Military or Law Enforcement, Nurse, Teacher, Clerk, Custodian) -- you retire and BAM!
You suddenly, without warning, feel like a Nobody... and that's simply not right!
Who are you and what are you going to do with the rest of your life?
What will you do all day, every day?
You might want a Retirement Coach if: you feel stuck. You feel anxious about retirement decisions. You need balance in your new retired life.
This happens BEFORE depression hits... if you are clinically depressed, you need a counsellor, therapy, and possibly meds.
I retired in 2010, after over 35 years with County government. I was the Retirement Manager for the last 25 years of employment. It wasn't easy to walk away... I was lost. Read more about my retirement here.
Despite this site, I still really didn't know what to do with myself every day. I pretended to keep busy -- but felt empty. I know what new retirement feels like -- been there, done that.
Today, I am at peace. I feel content with my retired lifestyle, and have adopted new daily routines.
I've worked with retirees for over thirty-five years now, and I know the problems and issues in retirement.
Retirement is different for everyone. Some love to travel. Others want simple lifestyles. Still others want purpose in employment but in a completely different way.
Getting there isn't always easy... it's not easy pre-retirement to make the decision to walk out the door. It's equally difficult post-retirement when you are in the Now What? stage.
What does retirement mean to you? You have few obligations. It's your time in life to do what you choose to do -- the problem is you must choose something.
Even if your choice is peaceful easy living, you need gardening, a dog, a hobby or two -- something to occupy your time daily and to keep you mentally and physically active.
You can't sit there year after year with nothing... well, you can but you won't live long as you mental and physically decline, right?
If you feel stuck, there is a better way... just takes some out-of-the-box thinking and many ideas will pop into view.
There is LIFE post-retirement and GOOD LIFE too! Possibilities galore if you simply take action to find them.
Even if you have a medical issue, it's your choice to look at life in the best way possible. There is still JOY to be found! You can choose to slowly slide into nothingness -- or not.
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” ― Maria Robinson
In retirement, especially in the first few years, we often get "stuck". We don't know what to do all day, every day, or how to fill all those hours when we previously worked. We no longer feel needed, and we might need a new purpose in life to feel fulfilled.
Coaching is a confidential, comfortable space where you can talk through your thoughts and feelings honestly, without fear of feeling judged.
Afterwards, you can take A-C-T-I-O-N, with or without me pushing you along!
Retirement simply ROCKS after you get back on track... and you might find a completely unexpected lifestyle that rocks your world! Yes, we are aging -- but we still have options on how to spend this Gift of Time to benefit our lives and the world at large.
Retirement Coaching will help you, one baby step at a time.
Your ideas, Your momentum, Your new life!
It's time to find your New Retired Self and choose LIFE again!
First, I am retired -- been there and done that! You can read journey on my About Me page here.
I was employed for 35 years for local government, the last 25 years as a Retirement Manager.
Post-retirement, I have continued helping retirees on this site for ten years now.
I retired in April 2010, and I struggled for a few years. The retirement transition isn't easy... and yet, I had this website and the ability to feel productive. Feeling necessary in life is something many new retirees have lost.
Second, I've worked with retirees for over thirty years. Whether my help is a small step, or a large leap, into your future -- depends on you and what direction you choose for your life, right? Together -- we can take action into life!
My Certified Life Coach training was through the Life Purpose Institute. I chose that training specifically to help retirees transition into a new retired lifestyle.
I Can Help You.
Finances are tight - Yes, finances are definitely important but so is your life. If you are seriously stuck, if you are slipping from anxiety into depression -- please think twice! You only get one lifetime.
You need approval from your partner - I hear this often, after all, you both live inside the relationship. All I ask is that you consider what your problems are doing TO your relationship. With help, you could mend a relationship, or choose to end one that isn't in your best interests.
You aren't quite ready - I totally get that. The problem here is: When will you be ready to tackle your problems, instead of letting worries and anxiety control your life? There are better options ahead.
You feel hopeless, nothing will fix your problems - WOW! This one I've heard many times and yet is the most UN-true of all these coaching thoughts. No matter how low you feel, there are ways to reconnect with life. Find who you were meant to be. It is simply never ever ever too late.
If you have anxiety, your never ending thoughts often drag you deeper into the muck of life... depression isn't nice. Anxiety and depression can be helped if you talk to your doctor, please.
You will attempt to do this yourself - Some people do succeed once they become clear what it is that is truly wrong in life. What often happens: We second guess ourselves. We don't trust our intuition or ideas. We procrastinate -- maybe try that idea tomorrow. What happens next? Very little, as many tomorrows pass.
You simply need time to think about it - I totally get this one too. Just like hiring a financial planner or getting married/divorce, it's a big decision. Again, all I can say here is that while you think about it, your life is moving along, maybe not so happily. You can find joy and contentment in life. You can renew your perspectives so that everything becomes new again.
You are what you think. If you think you can't, you are right, you can't. However, with a few mindset changes, you CAN!
Even if you are anxious to speak to a Retirement Coach, consider this one thing:
If you keep telling yourself -- you hate retirement -- you are bored to death -- you can't lose weight -- you can't live with your partner anymore -- retired life sucks! You can remain stuck, remain anxious, worried and sad for the rest of your life -- nothing will change until you do something different. You deserve more.
“If you always do what you’ve always done,
you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”
― Henry Ford
I sincerely want to help you find a more meaningful retired life. What that looks like -- is completely up to you!
I do not offer refunds as I am spending my valuable time working with you. You control what you get out of this coaching, you control your time and efforts, and I hope you dive into this with the same enthusiasm that I will!
Working Towards Your Best Retirement...
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