Retired and Sitting all day at the Computer

by Anonymous

As he cut back his time at work, my husband complained for two years that he couldn't bear to sit all day at his computer--that it was unhealthy and going to be the end of him.

Now that he's been fully retired for 3 years he is still doing what he retired NOT to do--he spends all day sitting at his computer.

Though I am worried that his sedentary lifestyle is truly going to kill him, I am also worried that the constant presence of a warm body who doesn't speak to me for 8 hours at a time is going to kill me!

I suppose this was how he was at work--just silently existing alongside his computer and the only thing he related to all day was his computer. Omg.

Prior to retirement we had a great marriage, and even tho he worked a couple of days a week at home, he was busy and I was busy.

But now, I feel like I'm in a fish bowl--like he is keeping track of everything I do!

I can't go out without reporting my whereabouts. If I go out with a friend, he is jealous that I have a friend. If I go out by myself, he might start drinking and get drunk if I'm not home by 6 p.m. I'm a prisoner in my own home. He doesn't work at making friends or at being a good friend to me. I don't know what to do.

He's a good person, but sometimes he uses me as his whipping boy--if he's not happy then it must be my fault.