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Retirement is Bullshit

by Terry
(Delray Beach)

I definitely didn't plan for retirement and never expected it would be so boring. I'm sure it will lead to an early demise. No, I hope it does.


If you are a Type A personality and strive to make things better in the work a day world then stay put. Just the word "retirement" is getting to me. Retired? Might as well be put out to pasture.

I find it a shameful descriptor of what a person isn't.
I regret it every day. If you have any doubt then don't do it. Don't do it for the money, if you have a pension.

Of course, some are happy with retirement. And I say that's great.

But don't do it unless your comfortable with what it really means. Seek advice in advance. Are you ready? I

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I hate retirment, no holidays, every day the same and nothing but housework
by: Christine kelly

I retired last year aged 65 and hate it. I worked in the NHS for over 20 years, and have a reasonable pension and income, but money does not buy happiness.

My husband has mobility problems so we cannot walk as we had hoped and although I have a dog, she is not friendly towards other dogs and has to be walked away from other dogs which means I never meet anyone to talk to.

Every day is the same, there are no holidays and it is just nothing but housework. I tried volunteering but hated it, and now have very little energy or enthusiasm for anything.

I can't wait to go to bed most nights.

I agree
by: Rick, Canada

Like you, I believe retirement sucks. It's been three years, and I've hated every moment. I'm heavily medicated, and can now endure. When I read what others do to have purpose or be fulfilled, I laugh. What a joke they are. Worst decision of my life was to retire. Wish I hadn't. Wish I could go back. I died that day. Now, I just wait for this outer husk to expire.

Retired...hummmmm
by: Anonymous

I also have retired at age 60. That was last year and guess what, I am tired of hearing how I am too young to retire. Then I second guess myself.

My husband doesn't seem to want to do things with me which we could have a fabulous time. He keeps busy on our acreage and he basically doesn't know I exist.

So I could feel sorry ( which I have been) or find exciting things to do. I have decided to join the gym, go play cards at the senior centre. I have also booked a trip to Cuba with my mother as my husband looked at me as I were an alien when I asked him if he wanted to go.

The power of retirement lays with your soul , GOD, and your mind.....I keep practicing

Life Changing
by: Anonymous

Retirement is life changing and is probably one of life's most challenging periods, especially if it is not planned.

I was laid off one year after my due retirement date. I thought, foolishly, I could go on working for ever.

We had to make some quick decisions. We decided to move into my late mother-in-law's house in a fairly rural area. The area is in a smallish town with basic ammenities, but filling the days is somewhat challenging. I so miss the city life and work colleagues.

Que sera sera, whatever will be will be, as they say.

That first year
by: June/Georgia

After I retired at 66, I did not know what to do.

My boyfriend, yes, us old girls do have them, had retired at 63 and started mowing peoples' lawns. He loves it and the money.

I did not want to turn into a house frau so I, who never had time for me or anything fun, got a cat and some chickens. I now volunteer at church, work out at the local physical therapy office, three times a week.

My cholesterol has dropped signifigantly, triglycerides down to 122 from 176. A1C now normal.

Boyfriend and I just bought an RV and have planned some trips. I look and feel much younger than my age; people cant belive I have a granddaughter in graduate school.

So, find a hobby, get out of hat type A mentality, exercise, go to the beach and don't look back.

Find a little something to do
by: Ronaldj

Find a little something to do....it's not as hard as you think.

I have been "retired" for six years. I cut and stack wood, we burn some and I give some to several needy families I know.

I write short stories and have had several published.
I am on the township planning committee.

Than after a couple years I though I needed a little structure, I took a job at the local hardware, twenty hours a week.

You need something to do, look around you, I have several things I want to do and have a hard time finding the time.

You can be as busy as you wish. Ronaldj

You can grow a lot of stuff in "bull sh--"
by: Texas Jane

I was a very busy executive during my working years. I had very little time to do much more than work, go home, recharge, and go back to work. I found that all that work actually distracted me from myself.

When you retire you are faced with yourself... everyday. Instead of complaining, either get busy distracting yourself again, or learn to like yourself. You are the one you will be spending time with.

I got lots of accolades from others when I was working. Retirement forces you to pat yourself on the back for doing anything that makes you smile. You have only retired from working, not the human race. If you are set on rolling in the mire, do it. You might learn to make mud pies before your done.

Making Your New Schedule
by: Christianne

Without schedule, it IS Bullshit because since birth there was a schedule. We had "feeding times", nap times, school days, college studies, Mommy duties, work schedules, you name it. Whether we wanted to or not, there was SOME obligation or duty with woke up and Had to do.

Now comes RETIREMENT. We thought that was a fantastic concept yes? Have to do absolutely nothing. It's hard to set your clock to NOTHING. So you have to create your own schedule.

Your RETIREMENT SCHEDULE.

Retirement for Type A's
by: MaryLee/Mount Dora

I totally agree with you being a type A personality myself. What I have found is that us type A's need structure. So make a plan.

I get up at 6:00 a.m., drink my coffee till 7:00 a.m. then go for a 20 minute walk, etc. etc.

Try to fill your day up with little things. If your like most type A's you never really had time for any kind of hobby, that's why we feel so lost.

We were so busy with work and life that anything extra was not even in the schedule for us.

Now is the time to find out what you really like to do other than work. I am still finding my way myself

, I have only been retired for about 2 months now. Are you a member of AARP? They have a site called Life Re-imagined. There is a course about how to find your passion that starts on 10/26/15, and it is free on line if you are a member. I signed up hoping that it will give me some insight into myself.

Good Luck to You!

Sorry It's Not Working Out
by: Ben

Really sorry to hear it's not working out for you. Hopefully, it will get better.

When I retired 18 months ago, I had a plan and a thousand things I want to do-including-learning to play drums. A buddy of mine at work was considering retiring at the same time....but said to me "I don't know what I will do with myself all day". I told him to keep working, retirement was not for him.

To this day, he continues to work and seems to be happy. Perhaps you can find work that would help you feel fulfilled.

Good luck,
Ben

retirement
by: Lynn

I don't like it either. I enjoyed my job and should have stayed.

like other things in life
by: Rose Raintree Arlington Wa.

Retirement like other things in life will be either satisfying or miserable all depending on your attitude toward it.

I was a busy RN who worked 50-60 hours a week for 35 years and prior to that in banking for 10 and loved being busy.

And when I retired my first year threw me for a loop. But I decided to change how I looked at it and develop some new hobbies I never had time for (gardening) and resurrect some old ones as well.

Also take the focus of of me and look around about how your experience and wisdom can benefit those around you. When the attitude changes so will your perspective on retirement.

Today 3 years since I retired most days I am loving the fact that I now have time to do things that hopefully will leave a more lasting legacy for my children and grandchildren than working non stop ever did.

I have found in getting up each day and asking God what should I do today that HE opens doors that I never would have seen before. This is a time in our lives that God can use us for some lasting and wonderful blessings for ourselves and others if we just take our eyes off of us.

God bless you and I hope you can see that this time can be one of the best of your life but it all depends on your focus and attitude toward it.

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