Alcoholic Family Member

by Sherry/NC

My son is an alcoholic. He is separated from his wife and lives with me. I am very sad, not depressed, and I have anxiety because he is
living with me.

He needed somewhere to go and I am a caring person. I wanted him to be in a safe place. He is nice to me.

I have never been through this situation before and I don't know what to do. I am looking for an Al-Non group. Is this what I need?

He has 2 boys and continues a relationship with them. He visit them every week.

Thank you for your advice.

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Alcoholics and Codependency
by: Wendy, Retirement Enthusiast/Coach

Sherry,

My sister went to Al-Anon many years ago for her first husband. Codependency is what I remember she learned about, and changed...

From a quick Google search:

"Alcoholic codependency is when an alcoholic's addiction relies on another person's actions and behaviors. A codependent relationship between the addict and their enabler allows for a comfortable situation where the addiction can thrive and grow.

People in codependent relationships tend to have a problem where one person doesn't recognize boundaries and the other person doesn't insist on boundaries. Thus, one person is controlling and manipulative, and the other person is compliant and fails to assert his or her own will."

I hope these definitions will help you! This is definitely not an easy thing to deal with... sending prayers your way!

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