(Wilmington, NC USA)
This past year has been very difficult for me and my son. He separated from his wife after a 17 year marriage. He has 2 sons.
He has depression and I believe this what started the drinking. He went to talk therapy for 6 months and said it didn't help. He took depression medication for 6 months and said that didn't help either.
I said it takes a long time for the therapy and medicine to help, sometimes 2 or 3 years before you can tell the difference. I said you have to work at it.
He loves his sons more than anything and spends time with them every week. He also works a full time job M-F. He pays child support, but lives with me and I want him to move into his own place.
This is a 40-something man. He says he cannot afford a place of his own. Where we live, it is expensive.
I feel bad for him, however I have asked him to start paying rent in Jan. 2024. It will be a small amount, but everybody has to pay to keep a roof over their head or they become homeless. I have made up my mind he will pay me rent or I will evict him.
I don't owe him anything. He is a grown man if he cannot afford to pay a small amount every month, I have suggested he get a second job. Some people work 2 jobs to make ends meet. He says if he works 2 jobs he won't have time to visit with his boys. I said you have a choice. You will still get to see them sometimes.
I have done my best as a mother this past year and I don't have any regrets.
Please advise me.
Thank you, Sherry