Ambivalence reigns supreme
Let's start by my "retiring" at 57. At that point I loved my freedom from driving in to a job I never intended to have when I left home for college.
Once FREE, I also had no husband, children, mortgage, or large community to interact with. The friends I'd made over the years were only fun-times with local access - listening to music, festivals, other single adults. And all I did is focus on my living space - the birds, the land, the plants, the interior, etc. I thought I'd spend a while adjusting to the freedom and then take another path.
In the meantime, four years has passed. I've become increasingly isolated and am very grateful for the things I've fostered and the peace it provides.
But I'm not going to find introspective, nature-loving, active retirees who love biology, horticulture, hiking, biking, and genuine friendships closed up behind a farm gate. And going out to common locations where people meet doesn't introduce you to those sorts of people.
I'm glad to be away from drama-ridden situations, but are there any well-adjusted, happy people who are available for lasting and sincere relationships that foster interdependence, sharing similar activities, and the will to "drag" (;-D) someone out of their comfort zone and go for a walk, meet for a picnic, and take a quick ride to go biking, hiking, or just enjoying the sunshine?
I'm definitely open for suggestions.