Anyone had similar experiences?
by Elizabeth C/ CNY
I retired 4 years ago, have been divorced for 15 years, kids are grown/live far away/busy with their own lives, as they should be.
I retired because I was so burned out after over 30 years in a social work position.
It took me quite awhile, doing gardening, walking, reading, etc to recover. I had always thought I had some good ideas about how to use my retirement time, but guess what?
When I tried to volunteer, I was told they already had enough people (closed little cliques, usually) or I wasn't a member of their church (I am agnostic). When I did find some volunteer "jobs", I discovered they wanted to work the heck out of me for free - and the supervising person was such a b*tch.
Before I retired, I took some community classes at local colleges, low cost/free, on topics of interest. Unfortunately those dried up about the same time I retired. Yes, I even offered to teach a few, but was told the insurance and risk of having non-employees running programs was too great, which was why they stopped to begin with.
I've tried exercises classes at the local Y, which are ok, but again seem to be closed cliques, very unfriendly, mostly women. After class, they go for coffee, and made it clear they were all life long friends and didn't want/need any new people.
I have made a few friends through a library art class, thank goodness. I know I made a huge mistake earlier in life, focusing entirely on my work and immediate family.
I have tried to sell my house but in upstate/central NY properties like mine aren't moving- neighboring homes have been listed off and on for over 6 years! Not sure where I would go even if I could sell it.
OK, done whining, but anyone else had similar experiences, ideas to cope?