by Mary Ellen
(Alabama & NJ )
I’m 65 and retired 3 years ago from teaching special needs students after 23 years. I am comfortable financially.
My fiancé died unexpectedly 5 years ago and our plans to travel after retirement died with him. I moved from NJ to Alabama to be close to my son and two young grandchildren, but I also have a daughter and three grandchildren in NJ (one is a teenager I helped raise and the other two are 18 months and 4 months old)
I visit NJ 3 times a year for 4-6 weeks at a time. It’s great to be able to shuttle between states but I have very little to do here in Alabama other than hang out with my son’s dogs when he and his wife are at work and my grandchildren are in daycare. I love to be with them-dogs bring me a lot of joy. Traveling between states makes owning one impractical.
In NJ, I have friends I see occasionally but I prefer living near my son in Alabama. My daughter’s household is very chaotic and stresses me after awhile.
I’m comfortable with people but I’m super introverted and have little desire to join anything other than volunteer once in awhile. I wish I had more engagement with life but I can’t seem to care enough to go get it. I just know I could be happier. ,