Bored after retiring and moving area

by Brian Sullivan
(Bognor Regis UK)

We moved to a small town by the sea 6 months ago. I find it difficult to make friends and life has become boring.

I do have a wife and two sons but I have struggled with depression but I am slowly coming out of it and need new challenges.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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Retirement is a evolutionary
by: Brad in Kansas

Retirement is an evolutionary process. You don’t have to figure it all out in the beginning.

I’ve found that it works better if you don’t make big changes the first year. However, it’s important to add little new things here and there. Try them out and drop what doesn’t fit.

Add a morning routine and stick to it. It should include a little yoga or stretching and a healthful breakfast. Add outdoor activities, such as bicycling, walking, running, hiking, boating, or going to movies in the middle of the day. Our favorite outdoor activity involves our new three-wheel recumbent bikes. Meeting people will come naturally at church and your outdoor activities.

Don’t feel that you have to fill your days with purpose and volunteer, unless you want to. Everyone told me that I should volunteer after I retired, but I’ve found that having fun with my wife and doing activities that I enjoy are rewarding in themselves.

by: Anonymous

I did a blog a few years ago about my marriage, now i need to do more blogs, I'm still married to the same person. No one knows what it's like to be married to a person who has a bpd disorder unless you're married to them male or female it doesn't matter i will write more later he just yelled about something

About your life
by: Elna Nugent, Lenox, Massachusetts, USAYour Name/Location

Dear Brian:

If you were asked to look over your life and write down at least five things-you know you are very good at doing ...and then also write down five things you really like doing.-- you can be more than sure that you have a hidden platform of things that you can share with others or actually teach some of them.

You might even have a book inside you that is screaming to be written that could help inspire others learn or teach some of these things ......If you can still do any of these things--I don't think you will be bored for long. ..and you may .find you can bring real life into your life while you are contributing to another's. Blessings.,Elna

The best retirement
by: Jane Curtis/Hawkins, Texas

Keep in mind you retired from work not life. You have the time to do anything you want. Start by finding someone who needs your help with something.

Start taking long walks. It is good exercise and it helps get you familiar with your new neighborhood. If you do it everyday you will become also familiar with the people and will eventually strike up a conversation.

I know it all seems overwhelming... suddenly there are no schedules, no demands, you are on your own. Write blogs, get involved with your life and find something each day that you did not do the day before. It does not matter what it is.

Get a camera, pick up a paint brush, learn a language. Plan a trip... and take it. Read to the blind, deliver books at the hospital. Do not focus on what you do not have but on what you can help someone else achieve.

It works.

Don't spend too much time in the house
by: Michael D. Bell, REALTOR®, Venice Florida and the Catskills in NY!!

Brian - I once read that establishing a routine and having something to do everyday is helpful when dealing with anxiety and depression. Exercise can be very helpful too.

Giving of yourself through volunteer work or a part-time job might help occupy your mind with something new, and also give you the opportunity to meet new people.

When I was a child my Mom would always encourage us to go outside and play. As an adult, she always says to "not spend too much time in the house." I ride my bike each day, sell real estate part-time, volunteer for my neighborhood homeowners' association, and take classes that are of interest to me.

Retirement isn't a bed of roses, but I have found I am happiest when I am not spending too much time in the house.

I hope this helps. Please let us know how things go.

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