David: Retired Pastor, Realtor, Builder, Consultant?
by David Carter
(Brookhaven, MS, USA)
You can see by my title that I wore/wear many hats in profession roles. I am now realizing that I do not need to keep up the pace. My wife and I lost our only son to an auto accident 3 years ago. I have been a very diligent person working long hours and expressing relentless effort to continue to be financially productive. We do not need the income but I continue to work.
I have continued in real estate. Due to having been rather productive, I continue a rather high level of productive life. But since my son's death, I have not been able to manage as much stress as I did. Now, I am/have made the decision that it is my time to "hang-it-up".
Therefore, I am gearing-down to a more passive life. I still work as pastor, counsel, and lead a discipleship group. I am realizing that I am not able to do as much as I did. I thought it would bother me when I reached these limitations, but it is not much of a bother. It is more difficult for me to handle details. I am glad my wife is capable of relieving me and handling some of the details.
I am open to advice and to give advice.
Wendy: You didn't give your age but if you know in your heart that you are ready to step down, you are ready to step down... I struggled for years but suddenly, just like many retirees told me, I was ready! Done!
I'm happy that you waited three years to retire, to allow yourself time to grieve and get past your sons death (that is, if we ever get past something like that...) You might have just retired, not quite ready, and then hit the brick wall of retirement depression, but you didn't!
The good thing is that you won't retire to
"nothing" as many do.. you still can do your church work (just as I have my websites to work on!) That identity is a huge plus in your own retirement transition.
Build a website for future income as I'm doing.. read my Retire to the Internet here.
Start a blog to share your thoughts with the world as my Monk friend did.. he'd love to hear from anyone out there as he faces his own semi-retirement soon! His blog is: Monks Do Not Retire.. More Retiree Blogs on the left navigation bar!
Wendy's other site... because Aging Matters!