I worked in New York City for many years before retiring. Had a terrific administrative assistant position that exposed me to all of the amazing things NYC had to offer.
Things change, my boss stepped down and retired and my family moved to SC and I retired and followed having no more family in New York.
I built a beautiful new house and am two miles from my son, his wife and two grandsons - who are growing up (one sixteen/the other ten). I really don't see them too much, as they are busy.
We take some trips to Disneyworld, some day trips, but I am lonely. I am in a family neighborhood, but there are some retired couples sprinkled in, who are all married. While they are friendly, I have no social life here.
Finding it difficult to be alone here and my huge double bathroom sink is a reminder that I am alone.
I have a son in Northern California and I love it there. He has a young son (seven) by his first marriage and is getting married next month to a wonderful young woman with a daughter. Big surprise, she is expecting - I have accepted that the world is a different place and am happy he is happy and am excited by yet another grandchild, and he would like me there.
I love it out there but all I could really afford would be a senior mobile home park (which is fine); I love the Redwoods, love the nature; would take courses at the local college. Recently purchased a small mobile home which I would really enjoy out on the west coast.
Have really made the effort to make it work here in SC, but I just cannot fit in. Things are not convenient for me and drive a lot - for someone used to NYC public transportation, this has been an adjustment.
Thing is, I try to project five years ahead and ask myself if I would be happier in California or should I stick it out here where I am not happy.
Days are long and sometimes I do not talk to another person for four days!!! Have done the "Y" thing, take nature trips and hikes, tried a photography club (I'm an amateur), but just cannot fit in. Am not comfortable and I cannot figure out why.
It has been three years and sometimes I think that because I really want to be in California that I am sabotaging my existence here. Do I go back to NY? I have a brother in VA - do I go there? My entire life I have wanted to live on the West Coast - do I fulfill that dream? Everyone is leaving CA and I want to go there!!!!
I have never been a "house of my dreams" kind of woman and have always wanted to camp and travel the West Coast. What do I do? Help!!!!
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