Do You Like Getting Older?

by John A.
(Tyler, TX)

The Question: DO YOU LIKE GETTING OLDER???


I can hit the golf ball any way I can and laugh if it goes in the lake. Them's the breaks. I'm just happy I can still hit that golf ball.

As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world, too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it, if I choose to read, or play, on the computer, until 4 AM, or sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50, 60 & 70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love, I will.

I will walk the beach, in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulgingq body, and will dive into the waves, with abandon, if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And, I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years, my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break, when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But, broken hearts are what give us strength, and understanding, and compassion. A heart never broken, is pristine, and sterile, and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face.

So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).

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Getting Older
by: Linda, Indonesia

Enjoyed your post. Thank you.

I Didn't Like Getting Older Till I Read This Post
by: San Diego CA

Thanks John A. for the realistic approach to moving on in life ...not getting older, becoming free-er and less controlled.

Love the fact that I can go wherever I please, whenever I please. Those 4am breakfast are great, when most are still sleeping. Those spur of the moment trips which become overseas trips and 18 hours on a plane to witness the other side of the world...Yes it does exist!

Keep up the great work, and Keep posting!

Good attitudes are contagious
by: Keeping the faith

Many thumbs up for your post on positive aging. Enjoyed reading your insights.

Beautiful
by: Linda CT

You have said it all -- love love this - thanks so very much

Yes - I like getting older
by: Irwin - Lakeland Florida

Love the post. Especially the last two lines:

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).

I have taken to looking forward to a bowl of ice cream a couple of times a week - and seeing that I am not going to live forever - as long as I am somewhat healthy and my blood work doesn't show any problems when I get my annual check-up, so be it, I am enjoying every savory bite.

Thanks for sharing. Good post.

Yes...aging is freeing
by: plp /green bay

You have said so many things right....enduring pain and feeling joy. I have found like I am what I am...even in a bathing suit. It makes you realize how silly you where for so many years. Thank you,

Do You Like Getting Older?
by: Sherry/ NC

Yes, love it, I am a whole lot smarter!!

Optimistic thoughts on getting older
by: Anonymous

Thanks John, Very helpful words!

Peaceful heart
by: P/New England

John, this is beautiful! Congratulations on finding this place of peace and happiness. It sounds like you have found what so many people are searching for; an attitude that will keep you well and happy for a long time. This is the kind of joie de vivre that attracts friends, too!

We would do well to read this over and over when we need to remember our gratitude.

Thank you for sharing this! Go have fun!

Getting Older
by: Anonymous

I love every word that you wrote! Thank you for your heartfelt message. I needed it today!

Elisa

You said it all
by: Helene Botch

John, you put the words in motion in my heart and soul with how to make the remaining years truly golden!!

Seriously, we have worked a lifetime to get where we are, and the freedom you describe is our reward.

Thank you for making it so clear and joyous!!!!

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