Feel Useless, Five Years Post-Retirement
by Seriously Depressed
Now that I am retired... its been almost 5 years now I feel absolutely useless and as though no one even my family cares about me anymore.
When I worked I felt productive as well as needed by my workers and family. Now I feel as though my family, including my wife, could care less about me and really wish I would take a hike. I do not get calls from friends anymore to do things. my wife acts as though she wants to be as far away from me as possible. it seems as though every time we talk we end up arguing about the littlest things.
I can and have done home improvement work and I believe I am pretty good at doing it yet I never get any compliments for what I have done even though I feel pretty proud of what I have accomplished. My kids never ask me for advice even though I feel I give good advice. My wife says I yell at everyone when I talk to them about things but I do not feel like I am yelling at them.
I feel like just selling everything the property up north, the place in florida and just spending the rest of my life in the lazy boy watching tv and sleeping.
Sometimes I feel like I am being used or taken advantage of by friends and then once they have used me I don't hear from them again. We used to do home improvement things together now they don't include me in them. my wife says its because I won't keep my mouth shut or agree with them on how to do things.
I feel left out of the picture most of the time. what can I do to get out of this funk. I am at the last straw. I just want to cry but can't.
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