HELP! Resenting Retired Husband
Well, my hubby has been retired for 6 years from the military. He has been working a PT job since then, which is seasonal.
All he does during the winter months is complain about the winter weather (we are in WI), and spends 10+ hours a day watching TCM B&W movies and old tv shows from the 50's.
He has no interest in watching anything current, just the same old thing day in and day out, same episodes over and over again. He does vacuum every week 1 time, and cooks meals about 2 times a week.
I am still working FT, and to be honest, when I get home I'm tired...and am really getting resentful of the amount of effort I have to put into our household when he is not working and doesn't contribute at least 50%.
He feels since he "gave his life for his country" that he should be able to vegetate every day with no comments from anyone...he's earned it.
I am very appreciative of his service, but to be honest, we are the same age and I too have given 40+ years to a career. He wants me to retire in 3 years when I turn 62...and to be honest, I don't want to be home with him all day when this is all he does. It makes me crazy just dealing with it when I get home from work every day and on weekends.
I too plan to either work a PT job or continue with volunteering as I have over the years upon retirement.
How do I stop feeling the resentment of all of this...he's a good guy otherwise, just seems very lazy to me by acting this way.
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