Hubby retired

My husband recently retired after working since he was 16. He is now 63. I can understand how he was tired of working and had to quit but it is really been hard on me.

He worked an AWS so I didn't see him that much for two or three days at a time. I had free time to watch TV, cook food I wanted and just hang out at home by myself. I guess I got spoiled and enjoyed it. I'm grumpy and sit upstairs a lot.

My husband asks me why I sit upstairs. How do you tell your husband that you don't need or want to talk to him every day. You can't!.

My husband is a really nice person but he likes to talk a lot. I'm the one who does not like to talk a lot.

I hope this gets better because I'm pretty down in the dumps about this.

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Selfish
by: Wee-zer

I have read this post again and I am still appalled by original posters (OP) remarks. OP has not stated their work history. Has spouse been the only provider in this relationship? Why is OP so unhappy that spouse is spoiling personal time?

Is watching TV and making food themselves so important? Why can't OP make some nice food for both of them? Why can't OP watch TV together or do other activities together?

I think OP has some soul searching to do.

Yes, retirement is a transition, but it isn't all about one person in a relationship. Both of them have to work on this transition together.

Introvert -- Extrovert
by: Wendy, retirement enthusiast

I have a different perspective here -- it's the introvert -- extrovert thing!

Extroverts THINK out loud -- even finding the car keys:
-- Where are my keys?
-- I thought I left them right here,
-- Maybe they are in the car,
-- Nope, maybe I put them in my jacket pocket
-- Hmmm, maybe I left them upstairs
-- whats that on tv (even though looking at it)
-- maybe I need a sandwich?
-- where are those keys
-- yeah, I need a sandwich
-- wonder if the keys are in the frig
-- they might BE in the frig
-- maybe I'll go look in the frig
-- yeah I probably put them in last night when I grabbed a water, in case I was thirsty in the middle of the night, while I was holding my keys
-- where are my keys
-- I need that sandwich!

AND on and on and on it goes! GRIN.

Me, the introvert, I think it all out. You might even say I OVER_think it all out.

Read the comparison here: Intravert vs. Extrovert

I think I'm just a ....witch
by: Anonymous

I thought I was being a witch! We feel the same but for different unknown reasons...here.

My boyfriend is a kind person. He thinks "outloud"! He has mentioned that I don't hear/listen him sometimes. He's right. He ponders, measures and plans and I kind of zone out.

I blame it on my chemo treatments and maybe it is that partially.Age, social exhaustion, whatever....I can't tell him, but if push comes to shove and my chemo brain requires it, I may have to say something.

I'm Certainly, absolutely, not perfect!

Husband talks a lot too
by: Anonymous

I have one of those too and after a few glasses of wine really talks too much! I go in my room and watch my own tv. This helps a little.

Re: Hubby Retired
by: Anonymous

OMG! Why did you ever get married. Your husband deserves more than you.

Give the guy a break
by: Wee-zer

I don't want to seem mean spirited but you seem to be a very selfish person. Your husband worked since age 16, give the guy a break and stop being a big baby. What is the point of being married if you don't want to share your life with your husband?

Why can't you plan to do some fun things with him? You can also have your 'me' time too. Tell him you need several hours a day by yourself and see if he can entertain himself with a hobby or whatever else he likes to do.

If you need to be alone all the time maybe you should consider going separate ways so he can find someone else to share his time with. You say he is a nice guy. I am sure there are a lot of other people who would enjoy being with him.

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