My husband retired 2 years ago, After a short time when he seemed to show interest in a few hobbies: golf , woodturning, walking.
He has now become really lazy - gets up late, does very little around the house and is becoming increasingly aggressive... to the point that he had a 'tantrum' tonight because our son washed up instead of drying the dishes- the usual routine. I cook! He hates drying up so I ended up doing it to get the job done!
I said to him it did not matter surely who did it as long as it got done, but no he threw a tantrum and accused ME of treating him like a child, when I said he was being ridiculous.
He acts more and more like a child- we have been together for 30 years but now we are retired we have less and less in common.
I am conscious of the fact that we are not getting any younger and I want to do lots of things which he is not interested in.
We have no sex life - he is impotent and has made no attempt to do anything about it. I have got to the point when I really do not want to be with him any longer.
I'm not an easy person to live with but I have tried to keep things going but he is aggressive and abusive and I have had enough of him.