My husband retired 3 years ago, has gained over 100 lbs and watches a lot of TV and on computer. Since he retired he doesn't want to do things he did when he was working. He used yo work out, bike, and walk. Now he can hardly walk without huffing and puffing. He will wash dishes and did cut grass on our riding lawnmower, but it broke and he won't call someone to fix it.
His sleeping habits are horrible and I can't remember the last time I got a good nights sleep. He's up for 2-4 hours every night, gets on computer or watches tv. Then he sleeps off and on all day.
When I tried to discuss this with him, he got irate and threatened to end our marriage. We've been married almost 40 years and I thought retirement would be fun, as we both like the same things.
I do everything, I've let things go for days hoping he'd pitch in, but no. All his friends thinks he's a great guy, they have no idea.
Now he wants to hire someone to do outside work so he doesn't do it. We have more than enough money, but I don't want to give it away.
He's pre diabetic, but his doctor lIkes his other numbers, so he is not on anything. Both his dad and brother suffered heart attacks, but he thinks he's immune.
I can't discuss this with any of my friends because they all want me to leave him from an affair he had 5 years ago. It was a horrible time, he went through a midlife crisis and put me through hell.
I still love him, but each day it breaks my heart alittle.
I can't go see a counsellor as he knows most of them and when we went 5 years ago all he did was lie and they believed him.
I am sure I'm not alone since I've read these posts, I just can't understand why he'd waste his life on TV (and its old shows) and computer games. Meets a very intelligent guy and I thought retirement would be different than this.
What can I do, I'm very sad that he's wasting his life.
Wendy's other site... because Aging Matters!