My husband is driving me crazy... it's not easy
It has been 6 years since my husband has retired and I am thinking of the "Together apart" lifestyle. It is a real thing and more common in Europe.
My husband has to be busy from about 5am till 6pm. He makes comments about my lack of activity. Well I hike and kayak volunteer (not as much as he does).
He also constantly reports on all the stuff he has accomplished. He asks me several times a day what I am going to do.
If we do something together he obsesses on what time this will occur and I need to be ready (even if there is no time obligation) a half hour early or he gets agitated.
I plan my appointments around his at home times so I am gone and will make sure I am home when he is away. So basically I avoid him which makes me sad but it helps my sanity.
Oh and he always prayers me about my volunteering as in I am not going or doing enough. I believe he suffers from high functioning anxiety and he makes me anxious too.