My wife is stuck in a mental hole. Need ideas.
(New England )
My wife of ~50 yrs very depressed & anxious (as diagnosed) last 5, her first retirement years.
“Losses” hit her hard: 2 family deaths, her retirement & her fave therapist’s, empty nest with adult kids out & not nearby, chronic autoimmune disorder that’s well under control with Rx, need to downsize house, sibling sister rivalry and inherited land ugliness, fear of future & of poverty though we are financially fine, consistently expecting worst outcome, constantly need of reassurance & nudging to get active and engage with life, purposelessness, no joy, no more intimacy, no interest in travel, once a passion. Not the happiest childhood or best parental role models. You get the picture.
Professional counseling and all known prescriptions have not helped. Trying ECT now; no solid signs of progress though depression has eased a bit after 25 sessions.
Now anxiety rules. Needy, wants me around all or almost all the time. Each day a challenge.
This is affecting me negatively as it undermines the happy couple-retirement I’d envisioned. I’m trying to remain optimistic, upbeat and super supportive, but it’s getting harder and I’m losing sight of see light.
Any ideas? Hope so. Need help, please.
Already doing “couples counseling for 6+ months.