No Time For Me!
I have been retired for seven years. I retired happily at 55 with 25 years of service. My Husband retired about a year or two ago.
I am going crazy, he is home all of the time. We downsized to a smaller home and it seems that he wants to be in control of everything.
In the Winter, he monitors the heat constantly. In the summer, it is all about the air conditioning, God Forbid if I say anything about not turning the air on.
Here is our current issue. When I clean the house, I like to play my music and turn up the volume. Well, today when I attempted to do this he came in the house from the garage and said "I am going to get some coffee, I can't stand listening to anymore Enya!"
Well, I lost it! I yelled "why do you have to control everything? You control the heat, the air conditioning, the radio in the car, why can't I listen to my music?
He responded with "Can't you just turn it down?" "I was in my bedroom and couldn't hear my TV!"
I again yelled back, why do you have to control everything.
He said "Do you want me to move out?" I responded "Do you want me to leave?"
We have been under so much stress for most of our 23 years of marriage, it seems we have great difficulty living together, yet we stay.
We have had an extremely sad month and a half due to our Grandson (28) committing Suicide, as well as my Husband being diagnosed with Sciatica.
I just don't know how much more I can take.
How do we live together and except each other's differences lovingly?
How do we comfort each other during these tough times?
Life just seems to be getting harder and harder.