PEN PALS: CLOSENESS,CYBER ROMANCE OR DISPOSABLE FRIENDS?
Christmas was coming near. For me it is the hardest part of the year. Early in December 2011 I sought refuge in pen pals on retirement- online.
Let me tell you what happened.
I answered ads. I answered many ads.
The next morning I found mail in my inbox. That was the fun part.
Then came the hard work. How do I tune in and establish contact emotionally? English is my second language and my culture is different from the American. But I tried.
One year later I can look back on countless pen pals that deposed of my friendship without saying goodby. The culture online seems to be silent withdrawal, heartless and cruel.
But I also found some faithful pen pals and even had an exciting cyber romance.
Now I understand more.
The best pen pals I met master writing as their art form. But not only that. They also wanted to come close and share their deepest thoughts and feelings with me. I love that.
Others tell about their journeys, their vacations. They tell me the name of the places they visit. They gave of their time. We just did not click.
Now I am the one that want to fade out and end the whole thing. How do I say goodbye to a pen pal ?
This was my first year. I am still learning.
If you are not willing to learn how write well all this can be a waste of time. It is more difficult than I imagined one year ago. I was naive.
The next six months I will improve my writing skills instead of looking for new pen pals.
Then I will try again, better prepared and a little wiser....maybe.
Wendy: Pen pals, whether email or postal, are like real friendships -- some work and some just don't. Plain and simple...
BUT there is a world of folks out there waiting for communication from others. You simply have to work at friendships, just like in real life.
Pen Pal Friendships are really wonderful when you find those special people who fit your need!!
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