Quiet Time - Good Habit to Follow!

by Irwin Lengel

One of the things I believe we must do daily is to set aside a particular – “Quiet” – time for ourselves. A time when we have anywhere from an hour to an hour and one-half of “just me” time. No disruptions, no noise, no telephone interruptions, just an hour or so I have for myself. I am trying to get accustomed to making this time around 4:30 or 5:00 AM in the morning as at that time, it is quiet outside and with my wife sleeping in the next room, I am in complete solitude. While some people may say this sounds crazy – I personally think it is rather peaceful being alone with one’s thoughts at this hour of the day. I find it quite refreshing or should I say rejuvenating. This early time of the day to just sit with one’s thoughts reflecting, writing, or just simply sitting there in the quiet can be so mentally rewarding.

But not everyone likes to give up or shall I say spend the first hour or hour and one-half of their day alone with their thoughts. While my knowledge on this subject is rather limited, it would not surprise me were someone to tell me that most successful people carve out or put aside a minimum of ten to fifteen minutes of every day to allow themselves what one would call “quiet time.” And these little ten-minute periods of time can be almost any ten minutes of time. Meditation, yoga, tai chi, a short ten-minute walk outside in nature, even a ten-minute soak in the tub or if you really want to get wild about it – lock yourself in the bathroom for ten minutes.

Even if you don’t allow the hour or hour and one-half every morning like I do, just spending these short ten-minute periods can and should become a vital part of your daily ritual as I am a true believer that they will assist you in life. Think about it for a minute. What can these short ten minutes do for you? This alone time enables us to balance much of the noise (television, radio, CD’s, our smart phones, the computer) that we allow to infiltrate much of our day.

Getting back to me - just sitting alone quietly first thing in the morning before I do anything else – yes, even before I start writing or making that first cup of coffee, somehow makes me feel like my day will be more manageable. I do not know how some people just pop out of bed and seem to be going a “mile a minute’ before they even head out the door to start their actual work day. True, we retirees do not head off to work like we used to but for many of us our daily schedule has become so full that we wonder sometimes how we even had time to work. I have found that taking a few minutes just for me – keeps me balanced and ready for whatever comes my way throughout the rest of the day.

Quiet time does not necessarily have to happen during the morning either. One does not have to set aside one ten-minute period a day. Most evenings I spend ten minutes or so (usually waiting for my wife to put my eye drops in before retiring for the evening) just sort of relaxing, allowing several thoughts to flow through my mind, usually consisting of what all I accomplished during the day. It is a good calming feeling and one that enables me to ease off into slumber land shortly after the lights are turned off for the evening. Relaxing like this and letting go is a perfect way to gently fall asleep without the worries about what tomorrow might bring. After all, chances are you accomplished all you set out to do today and if not, well, tomorrow is just another day. One day at a time.

Until next time!

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Quiet Time
by: Sherry/Wilmington, NC

OMG, I love it; quet time. When my kids were small I was a stay-at-home Mom. That was the hardest job I have ever done! Every minute of every day was filled up with the kids. They were demanding; I understood
they didn't realize they were demanding and God gave me a lot of patience! I worked at it; being the best parent I could be giving them my love and care. My husband traveled with his work all over
the US and Canada. He wasn't home much! He was also a Navy Reservist!!

He provided excellent financial support, but I learned
the money wasn't as important as him being home with us and giviing me a BREAK! We lived in 4 states for his corporate career and I never had anyone to help me. I did it all by myself! I would never leave
my kids with a stranger.

They are grown now with careers; one has a marriage an two sons and I was hoping for a granddughter, but was told CHILDREN WAS TOO MUCH WORK and they were not going to have any more children! My daughter is only career oriented and self-centered so we are estranged and very seldom see one another.

I am divorced now, but have always done my best and I have no regrets.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger! I am stronger!!!!!

Cherish My Quiet Time
by: John/New Bern, NC

I can relate. I really enjoy my alone time in the morning. My wife is not a morning person so it is a perfect time for me to contemplate life, make plans for the day or just think about new projects to plan.

I also find if I am down or feeling depressed at the time, I have learned to focus on how lucky I am and read some inspirational quotes. I love to read more now that I have time and my morning time is a great time to read a chapter or two.

A good daily practice to keep your mind healthy.

Quiet time
by: Louisewt

I love my quiet time and it is usually early in the morning before my hub and dogs wake up. I like time to wake up and just enjoy the birds chirping and watching it get light outside.

Once the hub gets up and the dogs, all hell breaks loose. Dogs need a walk outside, hub turns on TV. The noise begins! When hub still worked and I was home alone, some days I never even turned on music or TV and had quiet all day long. Unless the dogs barked!

I can't even imagine living in a big city with sirens, and loud city noises all day long. It is what you get used to.

Quiet Time Comments/Irwin
by: Ricardo/USA

Irwin,you raise a few interesting points with this post.To contemplate the past day, the present day,OR what tomorrow may bring can be stimulating in a positive sense,OR, if one is troubled. either physically or mentally, it can be TORTURE!

I believe that reflective modes as we age, and for that matter, at ANY time during our lives can be stimulating, and yet, depending on our station in life, sometimes depressing.

What may work for you Irwin, may in fact be a negative for others...we all march to our own drummer, and the "beat" is often times soooo different from one individual to another.

You may love line dancing, and others may have two left feet. I would suggest that as most of us age, we become contemplative and often reflect on the past because there is not too much happening in the present to stimulate us, and we all know that the clock is ticking more rapidly perhaps than we would like.

Often times this builds a sense of depression or apprehension as to what will be happening to me in the near future, and do I have some regrets of the past. I would think that this is probably all pat of the aging process, and we all deal with it in our own way at our own pace, realizing that we were all allotted just so much time on this planet, and when it is over, it is over, no second chances, regrets be damned.....it's done, and the world keeps spinning around without blinking an eye as to whether Irwin or Ricardo ever existed other than in the memories that we leave behind with people that may have crossed our paths.....and even they fade after awhile.

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