Retired educator Six months in
I retired July 1st after 30 years as a school counselor mostly in middle schools. The problems were getting more difficult as was the stress. I would go home at night and be a limp noodle.
I did like connecting with my students and hopefully making a difference for some. I also decided to retire because I was one of the oldest in my district (age 63) with most teachers being able to retire at age 55 after 30 years. I had started my career late (age 33) after working a bill paying job and putting myself through college for years.
Now I find myself like many on this site wondering if I should have continued on my stressful but rewarding job.
I've been single for a number of years and didn't want to stay in my small hometown as there were little cultural opportunities and the friends I had were all involved with their families (husbands, grandchildren). Also the winters were bad.
I moved South to try a new area for 6 months and have rented a furnished apartment. It is a nice area and I have explored and taken part in events here (classes at the retirement Institute, volunteering for the holiday home tour, attending lectures, walking in nature, etc.) however I feel that I'm still floundering.
I miss the structure of my work where I was busy all day and connected with many. I'm somewhat of an introvert and my job kept me talking with others and I felt needed. Now I feel kind of invisible. It seems like everywhere I go, people are with other people, mostly couples or families together. Guess I'm feeling alone and my job kept me from that.
I tried substituting here a number of times however when you're a substitute, no one really knows you and kids being kids take advantage. In my previous position, everyone knew me and I'm missing that community.
It seems difficult to find another one although I've tried different avenues and will continue.