Retired for 12 years and love it...except for one thing
I retired back in November 2003. I had retired early due to two reasons. I had suffered an injury doing my job in 1997 and never fully recovered. I also had been saving for retirement since I was all of 25 years old.
I saved early and often. I want for nothing financially in retirement. I started up my own computer consulting business in January 2004. Made a great deal of money doing it and met lots of people. I sold the business last year so I could retire once again.
I have done everything you can imagine since I retired. Been all over the world, twice now and sailed from San Diego to Hawaii in 2006 with two college classmates.
But, despite it all, one thing I don't understand is my former coworkers from the federal agency from where I retired in 2003. They gave me a retirement party and after that, you would have thought I was infected with the Ebola Virus.
Whenever I called, they were always busy or couldn't talk. Three people that had been my best friends for 25 years seemingly didn't have time for me any longer. I was hurt about this. I even came back to the office to visit and it was almost like my first day at work there. It was strange. Everyone seemed to just want to make small talk and then said they had to get to work. I never went back after that.
I finally cornered one coworker about this "shunning" I was receiving. He at first said I was overreacting, that everyone still loved me and had the greatest admiration for me. I continued to press him on it. He said something that has stuck with me every since.
"David, you are not part of our daily lives any longer. You're not the guy we depend on to complete a project or get out a report on time any longer. Someone else has taken your place." i was told.
I discovered something almost immediately. I was thinking I was the one who had changed after retirement. But, in reality it wasn't me so much as it was my former coworkers. And I disovered something else.
A true friend will stick with you regardless of life's circumstances. These people who I thought would be friends for life were nothing more than "friends of convenience." That's the best way I an describe it. It was a shock that I still have trouble coping with at times.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of treatment from former coworkers after retirement? I am almost at the point I think I may be the exception.