Retired husband driving me crazy
My husband and I have been married 46 years and we both have always worked full time. He retired last year and I started working at home due to Covid.
My husband has never been one to help with anything around the house and the only thing he does is mow lawn when weather is warm.
He stays up till all watching tv, nosing on Facebook and sleeps till 11 or 12. Because I am home, he wants me to fix him breakfast or lunch which I don’t have time to do with 30 minute lunch break. I have asked him over and over to just eat what he normally would.
-- He refuses to help with dishes, last week I left dirty dishes in sink for 3 days, just to see if he would take care of them.
-- He won’t do laundry, vacuum or dust, I do all grocery shopping and errands.
-- Bill paying and finances are also all my duties along with cooking on grill which most men do.
He hates computers and refuses to learn how to navigate around on one. He takes responsibility for nothing and if he can’t find something, it’s always my fault. He is so lazy, hateful, verbally abusive that I am having lots of gastrointestinal problems along with sky high blood pressure even with meds.
I know this has been an adjustment for him but I feel like he is taking it out on me. He has always been verbally abusive and for a few years even physically abusive. He screams and yells at me all the time, throws things and has tantrums like a child.
He has been so cranky and rude to our grandkids that I doubt if they will be back to visit anytime soon. He tells me to shut the F up in front of them.
I am so stressed and depressed that I am thinking of asking if I can start working back in the office.
Thank you for letting me vent.