My husband retired 6 months ago, I retired 2 years ago and figured myself out, painfully made a few friends and hobbies.
He’s now very happy to tag along with me everywhere instead of figuring himself out. I think he retired from thinking about anything, he keeps telling everyone he’s on permanent vacation, good for him.
I realize it’s early days but I’m going crazy with worry, I know him, this is a comfortable routine for him, I do all the work and planning and he sits back and relaxes.
Meanwhile I have lost all my freedom, solitude and anything else to call my own.
When I tried to talk to him about it he was hurt, even though I stressed he was still welcome, if only I could have a little freedom, but he balked, i do love him dearly and he would be lost without me. For better or worse.
I had a couple of good years, if only I knew.