Retired: No hobby, honey

by Leslie
(Oregon)

I really enjoy being retired. I have found plenty to do and started volunteering. My only problem is with my husband. He has retired and all he wants to do is read. No hobbies and isn't involved in any groups. Do I just do my own thing or try to get him out of the house and into life?

Wendy: Some folks might retire to "nothing".. something I cannot imagine! I hope to make retirement my BEST years...

If you choose to let him find his own way, I'd say to watch for depression... happens often especially in the retirement transition years. I often get emails from newly retired men, wife is working, and he is alone all day, depressed -- she has no clue.

If not, suggest ideas... you know what he enjoys. Push him to make breakfast or lunch plans with retired friends, former co-workers, etc. Google volunteer opportunities in your local area that he might enjoy. Buy a few books from Amazon in any topic of interest - he might find a collectible he loves (and spend much time finding them) or a new hobby that he enjoyed years ago, before family and work obligations.

Best Wishes!