Retired, Only son and his family 4000 miles away!
I am researching this topic to help with my dilemma and it is comforting to know that I am not alone. Although, my situation seems to be a bit more extreme.
My only son moved to Fairbanks Ak 12 years ago, got married and now has twins 4 yrs old and a 6 yr old. He loves it there and is has settled in. I have visited almost every year and have actually moved there twice but ended up coming back to Ohio due to my parents failing health.
Both my parents have passed now, I am single with only 1 brother who is consumed with his own life. I cannot seem to make up my mind whether to move back to Alaska or not.
-I love the kids and we get along pretty well although we have had some tension in the past.
-I want to be part of my grandsons life.
-I really love Alaska in the summer and enjoy traveling, fishing, camping
-They could be there for me if/when I am in need
-Fairbanks is remote and complex medical care is far away and there are few resources considering where I live now
-Cost of living is very high comparatively and not sure what kind of housing I can afford long term (I wasn't single before)
-I'm far from retirement (56) and jobs are limited and afraid I may not be happy with a position there
-Winters are beautiful too but very long and without much light and I am a sunshine baby, love being outdoors as much as possible!...(although in the past I have walked my dogs up until -20 and I could learn cross country skiing?)
Quite honestly I have bounced back and forth for years and really need to make my next move a somewhat final move and that scares me to death!... Maybe my thinking is to final and I should just move back for now?...I can always come back in 5-10?