Retired: Tired and Sad all the Time
I've been retired almost 4 years now and have been struggling with depression ever since. I was not expecting to feel this way in retirement as I've always been active and involved. I didn't realize how lonely I would feel or how many of my "friends" were really just work-related and that they would no longer be interested in spending time with me once I was not working with them.
I spend about 2 hours a day related to caring for my 98 year-old mother who lives in supportive living and is in late stage dementia. Most of the time, she doesn't know who I am anymore but I go because I know who she is!
Other than that, I don't really know what to do with myself. I attend bible study and book club once a week and had hoped I'd find like-minded potential friends but most have a circle of friends already and are not interested in pursuing friendship beyond the group time.
I have breakfast weekly with one friend who is not interested in doing additional things with me apart from that. Two daughters live within an hour of us but are too busy with their own lives and families and do not seem interested in spending time with me apart from seeing them at their children's sporting events.
I recently started seeing a therapist to help me deal with intense anxiety associated with the depression. I just can't get interested in doing anything else. My husband is still working and has his own interests that are quite different than mine and he is an introvert and a quiet type guy not prone to much conversation.
I just feel so tired and sad all the time.
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