I attended the first Retirement Coaches Association conference held in September 2017 in Ann Arbor, Michigan... and I am back again to report my experience for 2018!
I am highlighting just a few things in each session that my retired audience might find interesting.
First, if you are a Retirement Coach finding this page, please learn more about the RCA and next years conference here.
Robert Laura, the founder of the Retirement Coaches Association, is a Retirement Activist and Financial Planner. The conference is so refreshing to me -- because of the tight Retirement Coaches niche.These people speak my language - retirement! Every session I learn something new, even after being in the retirement field for over 30 years! Kudos to Bob and Amie for pulling off a superb event!
Robert Laura does the opening session. In 2017, I grabbed this quote as I couldn't have said this any better. Today I will repeat it:
Isn't that the truth? Yes, certainly is!
As I did last year, I will highlight the speakers who might help retirees. The majority of the speakers worked on Retirement Coach topics, our conference topic, but a few I need to share here!
Dr. Benjamin Hampstead from the University of Michigan, Psych Dept., was the first speaker and his session was really interesting as I love neuro-research. I took 5 pages of notes which I need to digest more, but a few quick points:
THE SINGLE BEST THING WE CAN DO: EXERCISE. This helps our brain, heart, vascular, is a mood enhancer and releases opiates too.
Dr. Dorian Mintzer from Revolutionize Retirement spoke about the variety of different "couples" in today's society: heterosexual, same sex, long term couples, 2nd-3rd-4th marriages, committed but not married, and on it goes!
Who will HELP you later in life? Who is your Safety Net?
Divorce over 50 is increasing. Women work and are not as dependent on the husband. You might have 20-40 years left and simply don't want to remain in this marriage. Each person in a relationship needs to have a voice -- speak to each other, eye to eye.
Topics couples can and should discuss:
You might want to take advantage of this conversation starter resource from The Conversation Project!
Finally, use *I* statements. Instead of blaming your partner with "you did this... " try using: "I think ..." Use WE instead of Me and You to make your conversation more balanced. YOU CAN DO THIS, Retiree!
Leslie Koc is a Retirement Coach and Caregiver for her husband. I am also a caregiver to my parents (age 90 and 92) though not to the extent as other caregivers as they do live independently... but I am there daily to help.
Some statistics on Spousal Caregiving:
She then spoke about Ambigious Loss, which is defined as: Ambiguous loss is a loss that occurs without closure or understanding. This kind of loss leaves a person searching for answers, and thus complicates and delays the process of grieving, and often results in unresolved grief.
Now LOOK at what happens to caregivers:
Caregivers need to take back control of our lives through exercise, sleep, and mindful eating!
There is a big difference between Caregiver and Care Manager.
One last thought about the Care Recipient: they are really invisible. Please be sure to talk TO them, not just the caregiver. We often create a Child atmosphere around them, so please chat with them. Taking them out, to a restaurant, brings some control and independence back to them. I love taking my dad out to eat, he has a hard time choosing what to eat, I read items over and over, but he enjoys having the choice!
Joanne Waldman does the webinar training for Retirement Options Coaching. Many of the retirement coaches attending were trained here. One thing that really caught my attention in her talk last year (and repeated here) was about giving permission to retirees -- to follow their dream, to BE yourself! You have to be ready to change. Inactivity brings on stress. She asks her clients:
Retirees have been given a GIFT: the opportunity for positive change, empowering perspectives and a pathway to new beginnings! #truth!
The Retirement Coaches Association conference had more sessions dealing with networking, RCA planning, marketing -- things not necessarily of interest to my retiree audience, so my summary will end here.
Thanks once again to Bob and Amie Laura for the time and attention to details invested in this conference... Even the food was great and the desserts were fab! :)