Retirement is double edged sword!
We've been married 34 years. For the first ten he was an alcoholic and couldn't hold a job because of his big ego and stubborn disposition. We have no kids and thank god because he was enough to raise.
15 years in, he finally grew up some but still was a jerk. I had to teach him EVERYTHING about being a man. His mother didn't do anything for him but create resentment so she was not in our lives since the beginning.
He had basic faithful qualities and still is true after all this time. We only found out he has ADHD last year. OMG... now I understand why he is so hard to be with. Like living with a 10-year-old.
We love very deeply and this is why we keep trying. Retirement means he is always there.
I don't mind because I don't want to be with anyone else. I have to give him things to do so he keeps busy. He has a hobby and when he pesters me too much I make him go so it.
I only get angry when he tries to run my kitchen. He knows when to back off cause I give him "the look" and threaten him with death and he stops. LOL.
Ladies, they are just as stressed as you are.
HUG, TALK, CALM DOWN!
REMEMBER THE LOVE...or leave.