Retiring in June-
Babysitting grandchild in August after kindergarten
My husband retired in February 2009. I needed to keep working because my health insurance will be paid for two years until age 65. I'm planning on retirement June 2010.
After working for 45 years, I'm looking forward to having free time to decide what I'm going to do (sewing, genealogy, gardening).
Because our oldest son lives within a few blocks and their 5-year-old daughter will be going to kindergarten in August, they mentioned us picking her up from school. I love the granddaughter and next year, I might consider it. This year just feels like a big commitment for me and too soon.
My husband has bad knees and limited mobility so he would be a help. I would have the major tasks of entertaining, watching our granddaughter 5 days a week until the parents could pick her up.
I feel trapped and guilty for my feelings. My husband feels guilty because we haven't been able to keep the grandchildren, and therefore, they don't know us as well as the other grandparents.
I'm torn between helping and realizing some freedom to finally do what I want (even if it's to do nothing). I need some advice. What have other grandparents done?
Wendy's Two Cents: I've heard the same thing over and over with new retirees... I think maybe the adult kids think they are helping to fill your day (plus help themselves, of course!)
I have a Retirement Transition Group that you may want to join.. we chit chat daily about our anxiety over retirement.
It's not an easy time.. and if you are "forced" into babysitting, and don't care to do that, yet, it might make you more depressed (if you even get depressed.. many do, and others go merrily on their retirement way).
I'm sure you don't want to hurt their feelings but take care of yourself too. It's a very odd time of life, good and yet lots going on in your head about who you are now, etc. Could you tell them you'd do it a day or two, instead of five days a week?
Hopefully other retirees will add their two cents on how they handled this! Best Wishes!
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