I am retired in my early 70s. My sister is 68 and my brother is 70. I do not get along with either of them.
My sister is a control freak and know it all. My brother is also a health know it all (unvaccinated) and I believe, still in a cult for many, many years to which he gives his money. I keep in minimal touch with my brother and periodic touch with my sister.
My sister and her husband just visited us as part of their trip to Southern California. They took us out to dinner. I did not say that my sister could not visit us although I wanted to.
The above is a bit of the backstory.
I carry resentment toward my sister, specifically in terms of putting up a headstone for my parents. I took control of putting up the headstone and paid fully for it (although many, many years after my parents death). I informed my siblings of the design of the headstone, etc.
I asked my sister to contribute any amount toward the headstone. She hesitated and stated that she didn't have the money at the time. I was taken aback. Years have passed.
My sister and her husband are not hurting financially. I was recently informed by my sister that she and her husband are building a new house.
I was wondering how can I approach this issue with my sister, if at all. If I now ask for payment, I am making her feel guilty. Any advice?
Thank you for the opportunity to express my issue.