Some Thoughts for Life and Retirement

by Tom Damron
(Plano, Texas)

1. Accept things with love and understanding

No matter where you are, or what you’re doing, always believe that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. Never expect, assume, or demand. Do the best you can to control your circumstances, and learn to accept that you can’t always control everything. Once you’ve done all that is in your power, if it’s meant to happen – it will.

2. Life CAN be simple

Even though you often feel like life is too complicated, it can always be simple. All you need to do is focus on one thing at a time. You don’t have to do it all, and you don’t have to do it right now. Be present, be active, do the best that you can. Whatever you put into life – life will hand back to you, with interest.

3. Don’t change for other people

Make people accept you the way you are, or not accept you at all. Always say what you really think, even if it’s not the popular opinion. When you’re true to yourself, you add beauty to the world – beauty that was missing. You should stay in line; just make sure it’s YOUR line.

4. You’re not who you were – and that’s okay

You’ve been through a lot in life. You’ve studied, been hurt, and changed. Every day we learn something new, which changes us in some way or another. Sometimes we realize we’re not who we used to be, but that’s perfectly normal. Everybody changes. In your life, people will point out the changes, and all you need to do is tell them “Of course I’ve changed, and so have you. Everybody changes.”

5. Everything that happens is for the best

Be it significant or otherwise, joyous or sad, anything that happens will end up being in your favor. Everything that happens to us builds us and helps us grow. Life will take you places, show you things, heal you and make you into a better person. Don’t be afraid to try or even to fail. In the end, everything is just a small part of life’s larger plan to turn you into whom you’re supposed to be.

6. Choose happiness, not wealth

Many people live their lives believing that money will make them happy, but the pursuit of wealth is devoid of meaning. Every choice you make be sure to consider your happiness, not your bank account. In this way, when you’ve reached old age, you’ll know the true value of things, not their monetary value. In the end, you’ll understand that the best things in life are things that money can’t buy – love and friendship.

7. Decide to be positive

One of the most important things you should understand about life is that if you’re not happy, it is not the circumstances that are to blame, but your decision to be unhappy. Every time life places obstacles in your path, give life a big grin, accept the obstacle’s existence and overcome it with joy. Make the decision to be happy, stand by your decisions and do whatever is in your power to keep them. This is the true secret to happiness.

8. Give the people you love your full attention

When surrounded by loved ones, we often start taking them for granted. When you ask anyone close to you how they are, don’t accept an “okay”, look into their eyes and ask them about their day, and how they feel. If you feel that you only have friends that remember you when they need something, don’t worry, be happy that you’re a source of light and hope for them.

9. Learn to set a loved one free

At times, we need to set a loved one free to allow them to grow and evolve. Every little sprout must leave the greenhouse and be planted in a larger pot to grow to its full size and bloom. It is not what you do for your loved ones that will help them grow, but rather what you taught them and how they use that knowledge.

10. Sometimes, you need to leave people behind

Sadly, not all our friends help us become better people. In some cases, friends can keep us stunted, not out of malice, but because they want to keep you down at their level. Learn to tell when this happens and stick only to friends that help you grow, lift you up, and inspire you to be who you really are.

11. Some things you only understand when you’re older

In the end, people will judge you according to your actions, that’s why instead of trying to impress and please everyone, follow your heart and do what you want to do, without fear. Remember that it’s better to remember something and say “I can’t believe I did it!” rather than “I wish I did it…”

12. Stop looking for a successful conclusion

We humans tend to search for some successful conclusion in whatever happens to us. We want a sense of closure and completion, but sometimes it’s simply not how life is. If you feel like you’ve been searching for that happy ending for too long, you may need to, instead, search for a new beginning.

Never be afraid to leave everything and start anew, you still have time, no matter what your age may be. Aspire to make the most out of whatever time you have on this planet.

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Words of Wisdom
by: John A. / Tyler, Tx

It is quite apparent you learned your insightful words of wisdom through the college of hard knocks. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

Best advise in life
by: AMV - MO

The best advise I have ever had! Thank you.

Lots of wisdom
by: Anonymous

Thanks for your post Tom. Your wisdom is much appreciated.

Thoughts for Life and Retirement
by: Lisa / Canada

Wow...what a great article! I loved it so much I copied it to read it whenever I'm down. If you wrote this, you obviously have tons of wisdom.

I imagine sitting on a pier over looking a beautiful lake and taking with someone with this kind of wisdom to learn from.

Thank you for sharing :)

So enjoyed your post
by: Linda M/CT

Thank You -- your post was spot on -- just loved what you said -- thank you

Thank you!
by: Anonymous

What a great post!

Great Piece!!
by: Nancy from Texas

That was quite inspiring!! All of it is true. . . not always easy, mind you, but to certainly make a better life for yourself!!

Thank you for sharing!!!

Life and Retirement
by: Sherry/ NC

This is excellent advice!!!

I have learned as I have aged to never ever assume anything!! Always ask questions and be free with hugs!! Everyone of us needs a hug!!

by: Anonymous

May sound good but be untrue.
Or may be untrue for some and not others.
Defiinitely do NOT agree with most of this.

Many times I should have NOT done what I wanted to but what was the right thing to do for others and simply because of morality.

Many things especiallly that I did "sinfully" did NOT turn out for the best.

Often my choices were wrong and I would have been better off NOT sticking to them but looking at other ways to solve a prolem. Plus personally I tended to run away from challenges instead of finding a way to work through them and that DEFINITEly was wrong and very unhelpful to me as a developing worthwhile person.

Wise Words
by: Jeff Davison, Niagara Falls Canada

Thank you, Tom, for these wise words. These days I am resonating with number 12. Peace to you!

Some Thoughts for Life and Retirement
by: Diane

This was just what I needed today. What a great article. I am going to print this one and read it often. Very thoughtful. Thank you very much!

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