by June
(Georgia )

Most of us are at an age where we lose loved ones due to their passing. I lost my younger sister, my best friend, my touch stone to cancer in December 2021.

Covid may kill you but cancer will destroy you then kill you.

I was with her as much as possible through this trying time and my mind keeps recalling certain scenes of her illness and the removal of her body from the house. How does one crawl past this!
How does one come to terms with the loss.

She is not the only family member I have lost but it is the hardest to come to terms with.

I realize there is no instant fix for this loss but I guess broken hearts do mend with time.

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by: Carol

It is early days still. Those unpleasant scenes will eventually fade.

When you find yourself dwelling on unpleasant memories, try to switch your mind to something less stressful, it takes a bit of practice while you are still hurting so much.

I adopted a kitten and his antics gave me much need laughter in between the tears. I know this is not for everyone.

Best wishes

Continue to love your sister and enjoy your life
by: Michael - Upstate NY for the summer!

Remember your sister not for how she died, but for how she lived.

Be thankful that you could be there for her in her time of greatest need, and that she didn't have to die alone.

I am certain that you were a great comfort to your sister. She will always be a part of you.

If there were traditions that you shared, continue those traditions and invite other family members to join you.

It's an unwritten agreement in relationships that "one of us will go first."

Honor your sister's memory by continuing to love her in your heart and enjoying your life.

I think if you had gone first, she would have done the same for you.

When family members die
by: Bernard Kelly - Geelong

Old age and Death is inevitable, however good lives
live longer.

I agree with Wendy - don't focus on the end, but rather focus on those prior decades of living.

Remember the Good Times!
by: Wendy, Retirement Enthusiast/Coach


It seems you are focused on the end of her life, which was quite devastating... and difficult to forget, I imagine.

Why not think about all the good times instead? Start with childhood, then move on to your teens, and adult memories. Do it randomly. Whatever you choose -- think of the Good Times.

Look at old photos to help you remember. Don't just glance but sit and imagine the scenes.

You might even get a journal and start writing memories as you can, whatever comes to mind...

Honor Susie by remembering the Good Times and what she brought into your world and the lives of others!

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