Swimming in Mud (husband retired)
by Lisa, farm county
Husband retired at 78. I encouraged this.
I still work at two part-time jobs that I love. He resents my friend, my job, the fact that he does more at home now, the fact that we have less money now, staying at home alone. All of these seem somewhat normal except he goes into a rage when I talk in the phone.
I am in sales and networking is the basis of my job, even if it is just chatting. I appreciate all he does and the life we have but, I'm too social to sit and look at him like a puppy waiting for a pat on the head.
And when he gets this way he complains that I never cook or clean. The last 4 meals I have cooked he won't eat bc he is not hungry. He will not let me do my own laundry bc I don't wash them every day and he says it will start stinking.
He has also complained that I bathe too often(daily) and I use the bathroom too much. Only does this when he throws a fit about not getting enough attention. Attention black hole about 3 days a week.