Texts and hugs

by Karin

Even though the invention of the cell phone, Facebook and the internet are wonderful at times. I really miss hearing someone's actual voice.

Most of the time it's just a few lines that you want to get across so you text people but pretty soon we won't remember what they sound like!

I also find that we older people miss out on those big hugs we used to get. Nowadays it's just a little squeeze I don't know if it has to do with the fear of covid but real hugs have almost disappeared. Those warm cozy long comforting body contacts. The kind you get comfort from not just it was nice to see you.

Am I the only one that feels this way? Thanks for listening...

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by: Loyce/California

I like person to person but adapt to the phone, texting, email, zoom and grateful for all the options as I've found great resources on Next Door, our neighborhood resource. I look for Positivity and filter through Negativity and offer up my Positivity, hoping for The Best and Trying My Best to be a good neighbor/volunteer/friend/community resource.

by: Karin


My dermatologist put his hand out for me to shake at the end of my appointment and I wish I could have seen the look on my face.

I was totally shocked probably had a questionable look but I did put my hand out. I was really surprised we both were wearing masks but he put his hand out LOL

by: Karin

I never was a big hugger to strangers but the new tap on the back hug is just not enough and it is covids fault for! Wendy definitely call your mom everyday just to hear her voice.

by: Cindi H Ohio

You are not the only one! I really miss hugs. Even visiting with family there are less hugs these days. Thanks a lot, Covid. I am a big hugger.

by: Sherry / NC

I know what you mean about not hearing someone's voice. It saddens me. People don't talk to each other in person anymore. It is either a voice mail or texting.

I still do not like to hug someone. It is so personal getting that close to someone for me. I still hug my grandsons, but that is it. I don't feel like I need to hug everyone. Some people just walk up me and expect me to hug them! If you want a hug you shculd ask first.

I don't even like to shake hands. People do not wash their hands during the day. We all carry germs on our hands, but don't take the
time to wash them.

The world has changed.

My Thoughts
by: Wendy, Retirement Enthusiast/Coach

Hey Karin!

First, I always text, and I never liked the phone. Even at work, I disliked chatting on it and even returning calls. I do use the phone to chat with mom daily. She needs to know all is well (even hours after I've been there all morning).

I have many face-to-face contacts daily (both when working and retired) for this introvert -- so I kinda shut down and only text when I'm home. It's simpler, the text is waiting for the receiver, and though rather impersonal (I agree), it's my mode of communication. I like the written word. I can stop and think about what I am trying to say or even not respond until I think it over.

Second, on Hugs... I'm guilty here too. Quick hugs. Nothing to do with COVID either. Just how I hug, I think.

Finally, when I attended the CSA (Certified Senior Advisor) conference last year, I heard over and over how seniors who don't talk to others begin to lose their speech abilities. We use smaller words and speak slower. It's one of those use-it-or-lose-it things! I knew this was for exercise and physical, but it never dawned on me that you begin to lose speech patterns when you don't speak.

So Retirees, Pick up that phone today and call someone and talk.

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