The Role Retirement Played in my Spouse and I drifted apart
I worked as a teacher for forty-three years, and believe it or not was was not ready to retire because I truly enjoyed working with my students and their parents. My spouse has been retired for sixteen years and that means he does all the washing, cooking and shopping with sale paper as well as coupons.
Now that I am on the scene, we argue all the time. It appears he treats me as if I do know know how to do a thing.
Recently, I am a Y member and I exercise daily, I am starting to play golf again, and I volunteer at a Free Teacher Store one afternoon each week. I am taking it very slow, because I want to give my two adult sons some encouragement and also my fifteen year old grandson. I feel that I reached out to my students and their parents, now it is time for me to reach out to my own children and grandson.
I have tried to do my thing and allow my spouse to do his, but he always critcizes me, and that irritates me. In the public eye he acts as if he is perfect, but at home very hostile when talking to me.
I have tried to make conversation about things I have observed in our neighborhood, he always states, I have known that for months. He does not travel anymore due to Panic Attacks, so he watches television reads newspaper, and works crossword puzzle in the local paper. He does not travel to see our son and his family, even if I drive.
I feel that respect has disappeared from our marriage. When I go to bed, the TV comes up louder and I do not do that when he is resting. Now, he is resting and I am on the other side of the house writing, so that the lights will not interfere with his sleep.
As I make the retirement adjustment, I will continue to ease into my niche of comfort, so that I can enjoy my fruits of labor.