Two years after retirement

by Nancy
(Santa Claus, Indiana)

Well, actually year and half.

I retired for several reasons, the main one being that my husband had been retired for 10 years. He went on day trips without me before I retired and I thought it would be nice to be able to go with him, and it has!

My job was becoming increasingly stressful, I wasn't sleeping well and was majorly stressed out in general.

I have had both anxiety and depression after retirement, mostly depression. I found it a great surprise that retirement has been such a big adjustment. It's another world and you just don't know unless you've been there. Finally I've found the help I need on this website. I've gotten a lot better in the last year.

A few months into my retirement I decided to look for a job. I ended up trying to recreate my old job, sending out resumes, getting my references in shape, applications, interviews. I ended up getting a job as an after teacher/counselor in a daycare which ended up being just a daycare job replete with bathroom cleaning duties. Not for me!

I realized that what I missed was my old job, that was what I wanted back. I also realized it was best for me to be out of that environment and I was doing was just what I wanted to do, which was nothing in terms of work.

I keep a structure to my days, Monday through Saturday. I go to the gym in the morning, sometimes I take the dogs to the park. I go to the library about once a week then spend the rest of the morning doing some household chore. In the afternoon, I spend time on my hobbies which are playing the piano and quilting. In the evening I read or watch TV. Sundays, I allow myself to loll after church or go somewhere with my husband.

I haven't developed many friends. I would rather spend time in solitude or with my husband. I do have one friend whom I meet for lunch and I have made friends with 2 ladies whom I sit with in church, but we haven't done anything together outside church, except for vague future plans.

My marriage has actually gotten better after retirement. I have been enjoying my husband's company. However, except for trips and outings, we do separate things at home.

So, I am having fun now that I'm retired, but I am still in the adjustment phase.

Wendy: Nancy, I love that my website is helping you... and it's true. When you read all the stories here, you know you are not alone and this is simply another phase of life that you need to adjust to.

Honestly, I know retirement well, as it was my occupation for 25 years -- and yet, I feel into that transition hole too. I really did very little for 2.5 years... yes, my website work, but not lots of it. I worked harder on my website before I retired and worked full-time! Geesh!

But finally, I feel like I am back in the groove-- only its a new groove. I've come to realize that I don't HAVE to work all day. I like to jump on and off the computer as the time I am here is more focused. I water my plants, do a load of wash, cut up veggies, and come back and work a little more. THAT seems to work for me!

Here's hoping you find your groove soon -- and on to a happily ever after retirement!

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A Great Blog for Christians -
by: Stephanie, Philadelphia Suburb

A friend passed this blog along last night and in reading it I found a comment by the author, Ann Voskamp, that was right on target for me: "Do whatever’s the next thing. Do whatever He puts in front of you and do it with great love and this is what makes any day, any life, anybody great. Miracles keep happening in the mundane."

I keep hoping that big, important volunteer project will come along, but doing what God puts in front of me every day, as well as I can, is something I can do while I wait for a project that gives me direction and purpose. And wouldn't it be a surprise if this IS the project?

I'm still struggling with adjusting to retirement after two and a half years, largely because I spent most of that time recovering from adverse drug side effects, but things are getting better bit by bit.

is my story too long?
by: Joy

Was my comment too long? No clue as to the number of characters. Let me know by e-mail Wendy I can shave it down. Thanks.

wendy: Joy -- I don't see a comment here. Maybe it was rejected by the server? If it told you too long, it was (happened to me before) ... just cut in two and post 2 parts! thanks!

by: Nancy

to all of you. I wish I had found this website b/f I retired! The last year of working was stressful due to planning for retirement. It helps to know I'm not the only one struggling with depression, anxiety, and adjustment period.

by: Tom

Welcome to the site. It helped me tremendously when I retired i felt the same way. Anxiety and depression was unbearable.

It's going on five months now and with some help and lots of prayers it's getting better. I too am from Indiana and find it quite comforting that someone else from this good old state has joined. I hope it continues to get better for you and wish you the best of luck.

Wendy: There are 14 retirees from IN in the Retirement Community!

Thanks for Your Story
by: Stephanie

Hello, Nancy,

Thanks for your story. I've been retired almost two years and it's good to know that I'm not abnormal in some way in that I haven't adjusted to retirement as yet in a fully satisfactory way.

Like you, I had a job that was very stressful and while I miss having the structured days, I know I wasn't very far from having health problems from the stresss so there really was no choice but to retire.

Unlike you, I'm not married and I've also gone through quite a bit of sickness from medication side-effects since I retired.

It's reassuring to know that many people go through a period of adjustment that lasts a couple of years or more and that I'm not having some peculiar, individual experience.

It makes me feel not so alone!

by the way....
by: rita

Happy to hear something from american world.. since in Italy things..go in another way. I'm retired too, but I do a lot of things, much more than the past worked time. And I'm happy..I feel free..with a good health.. meantime.. Good luck for everybody in all the world



Your story has a happy ending. Enjoy your days - you've earned them!

Having a compatible spouse and doing things together is something wonderful and I hope you will have lots of new adventures. Nice to have you here!

Please join the online community...I'd love to chat with you!

Wendy To join the Community, click on the two faces to the right and register!

Thanks Wendy
by: Nancy


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