What a year...yikes!

(ottawa canada)

Retired for 3 years and this has been the toughest...

My biological father whom I met 11 years ago passed away before Christmas, we decided to celebrate his life after the holidays were over. The date they (his immediate family) picked was my oldest sons birthday which was hard for us.

A week later. my wife's godfather, her uncle died. As we were preparing to leave for Timmins, we received a call that morning from my wife's brother that their mother had died. She was devastated as were all of us since we were really close to her. I felt I had to be strong for everyone so I put my grief on the back burner which I've done in the past with varying degrees of success.

One of my brothers called me a week later that a cousin who had been at my Dads funeral, had died!

We went through all the estate stuff over the next couple of months and we ultimately decided to sell their parents home.

Well a month or so ago, my sister daughter in law, a mother of three, the oldest just ten, died of liver cancer. only 42 !

A month ago, my youngest daughter decided to break up with her boyfriend of two years which was devastating for us as we really loved the young man and were thinking that wedding bells were soon.

A week ago my brother whose business had failed suffered a nervous breakdown and left his wife... all this loss was and has been unbearable so I picked up a book on grief recovery which should help we hope.

What a year... finally getting some energy back and then we get knocked down again. figuratively speaking.

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What a year
by: Betty/Archer Florida

Dear Mark,

You have had more that your share of grief, it seems. I have had 4 family members die since 2008. Not like you have, however.

Do you know about Hospice? Here, we have the "Hospice of North Central Florida." They have a grief support session. And we meet once a month at the Senior Center in our area. It's free and if needed, Hospice will provide "sign Language interpreter/professional" for the deaf.

I don't attend every month but I know it's there if I have the time and feel the need.

You did the right thing by reaching out.


PS: Would you please tell me what book you read on Grief. I've been looking for something like that. thanks.

Unbelievable Year
by: Elna Nugent, MA

Dear Mark:

You are left with one thing that can make your life ahead meaningful and worthy. You can Trust the future with a capital T. We live in a universe of unconditional love beyond anything we can even begin to conceive.

If you can get up in the morning and trust the "God Consciousness" part of which is in all of us----extraordinary things can take place. First know that you are being taken care of and that those who have died are alive and well in "an atomic body" which is indestructable.

LIfe is an amazing journey and you are here for a reason. Trust today, tomorrow and the days that follow and watch what happens. Blessings.

Life Happens...
by: Wendy, www.retirement-online.com

Hey Mark --

Somethings in life you have no control over... it is what it is. Yes, by all means, allow yourself to grieve. You've lost many close ones in your life and need to regroup a bit.

Get yourself strong again. YOU can be the person to help them move forward as you push yourself ahead in life once again. You have time to make calls to simply say "Are you ok? Can I help you?"

One bad year does not make a bad retirement! Be Strong!

Best Wishes!

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