Wills: Tell someone who your lawyer is!
My husbands father died of a heart attack. A couple of weeks before he died, he offered for my brother-in-law to see his will. He pointed to an area in his apartment, saying "it's right over there if you want to see it."
After he died, the will was gone. Nobody knew what lawyer he used, or if he had a lawyer draw it up. He owned commercial real estate and personal properties. We are pretty sure we know who "disappeared" the will, so they could continue to live free in the commercial real estate and nobody can fix the apartments he owned, sell them or kick the person out. :-(
Because this person is one of the siblings, the only way for everyone to get their inheritance would be to break the family apart. Meanwhile the apartments and homes are in dire need of repair and will not be worth much by the time we can sell them. (Waiting for sibling to die or move. :-/ )
The moral of the story is to make sure you have a lawyer file your will and tell more than one person who your lawyer is.
Lynn: Wow.. incredible! I can't believe the other siblings stand by and simply let this happen. Why not check with the County to see if the will was filed with them? Call your County Probate Court to ask, then ask who the big probate attorneys are locally. You might call a few and ask... why not? You may not find it, but you never know, you might (OR one attorney asks a few others). A death notice (however long ago), in the local newspaper, might also be helpful... you never know who reads it!
IF you located a will, then it's a family decision what to do with it. But at least, they should try a few things to search for it... best wishes!