Wisdom From the Past

by Janet

A couple of words of wisdom about letting our grown children go:

On Children
Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Children are Like Kites
Erma Bombeck

You spend years trying to get them off the ground.
You run with them until you are both breathless. They crash ... they hit the roof ... you patch, comfort and assure them that someday they will fly.
Finally, they are airborne.
They need more string, and you keep letting it out.
They tug, and with each twist of the twine, there is sadness that goes with joy.
The kite becomes more distant, and you know it won't be long before that beautiful creature will snap the lifeline that binds you together and will soar as meant to soar ... free and alone.
Only then do you know that you have done your job.

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My Kid
by: Durango Colorado

This post brings tears to my eyes. My 28 year old daughter is without a doubt the finest human being I’ve met in this world. From the day she was born, I worked to make that bond strong and special. I promised myself that nothing bad would ever happen to her, and that her life would be fun. By
her account, I succeeded.

Now she is a woman with her boyfriend, job, and home, and is busy with the things in life that we are all caught up with. Fortunately, she doesn’t live very far and we see each other at least once a week, It is plain to me that she loves me very much. I am a proud and grateful father, and although I am happy for her, I really miss my KID.

The bittersweet of life
by: Sandy

Janet - those are excellent poems and thoughts. Some people say they can't wait until the kids leave the house, but not I. I miss my kids who are now adults, but know they must follow their own path. I just wish I had listened to all the people who told me that my children's life would go by in the blink of an eye. They were right!!!

I still struggle with the notion that things can never go back, but these poems do help. Thanks!

Wisdom From the Past
by: Sherry/NC

Your children do not belong to you!!!! God gave us these souls to raise, care,love, nourish!! You should teach your children to be independent so that they will leave their nest and make a life of
their own.

I am enjoying watching my son and daughter have a life of their own!!

Enjoy life!!

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