Hi, I am single...which might be a problem, or not. Yes all my friends work. I retired 8 months ago. I had just turned 57 that month. I had worked in a fairly high position at basically the same company or 34 years. I loved it.
Then about 10 years ago, I had some health issues..and then about 5 years ago we went through a large lay off. I was freaking out, not wanting to be laid off. But I was afraid stress had taken a toll on my health. I wasn't laid off, but begged to be laid off 8 months ago. I still wasn't laid off.
I made my decision 5 years ago that I was going to retire, at 55, then it changed to 56, then on my 57th birthday, I did retire.
So I really pulled back from my extreme working a couple of years ago. And most of my long term buddies there, were gone, either by lay offs or quitting. So socially I was quite lonely there. And I lost my love for company, so then I wasn't working to excess...had no desire to, so I was bored. But hid it.
OK long story short my obsession for last 5 years has been to save money and retire. Oh, my Mom in another state had major health needs and my Dad needed/wanted my help..So all my thoughts were on RETIRING.. moving to the beach... helping parents, and redefining ME.. deciding what fun part time job I want. So, gave up a lot of money, but planned it.
NOW that I am retired, what is there to obsess about? I don't want another job to lock me into a time commitment. I am doing as many are: volunteering, joining dinner and hiking groups..meeting lots of new people...joining incredibly FUN church choir and other church daytime groups...being with my labradoodle a lot. AND TRYING TO NOT GET incredibly DEPRESSED.
My job had depressed me, and somehow reaching my dream of RETIRING EARLY did NOT take this depression away. It took the stress away. But now I have the hard work of filling my day with something I like.
I wouldn't mind making some money. I didn't get a package..all done on my own, and all doable..but now I will never be rich, as I would if i had kept my job. Mentally, I needed to leave my job..no mistake there..but...now I need something...I am hoping to really LOVE the hospital volunteer job. So far I LIKE it.
I love the church..I like the hiking, while I am doing it, and the meeting of new friends, while it is happening.
BUT in the quiet times, I am fighting depression. I am still looking for ME. One thing I am going to do, is sell my big, and full of maintenance house, and move to where I grew up..the beach. where best 2 friends and parents live.
I know how to make new friends, so can do that there..and hopefully find a fun part time job in a beach community. I am 57, but look and act younger..so hopefully I can convince someone to hire me..
Sorry for the ramblings..I welcome any insight.
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