Your Thinking: Fact or Limited Beliefs?
by Wendy, Retirement Enthusiast/Coach
Do you think logically and accurately? Do your life decisions make sense? I have a great boyfriend. We see each other every week or two, as he lives out of state. He calls me every day, sometimes more than once, and now is considering moving here! He is very needy. I like how it is right now -- I don't want to see more of him, even the phone calls are driving me nuts!
Do your old limiting beliefs (learned from childhood, teachers, watching others, memories of past circumstances) make you think not-so logical?
In one of my coaching classes, they talked about a woman who asked her professor this question:
The professor asked one question: What was your parents relationship?
She was shocked. Her dad was a long-distance driver, only home for weekends, which was their family time. Otherwise, he rarely called and that's her norm.
As she became aware of this memory interrupting her thinking (tucked away in her subconscious), she began asking her friends what they thought, and she realized she welcomed him living closer and having more frequent interactions.
What IF she hadn't asked the question that day, hadn't become aware this isn't true for all relationships, and pushed men away for years to come (never recognizing what was happening behind the scenes in her subconscious)?
I remember one retiree telling me that he'd die shortly after he retired... like his father had. What a sad mindset to go into retirement with.
Do you realize how often we do things without thinking about why we do them? The retiree I just mentioned seriously believed he'd die, despite being an intelligent manager at work. It was a long-held belief, in his subconscious, and yet it was not logical, it was not factual but seriously believed.
Just think, consider buying a new car post-retirement, but no need, I'll die soon anyway. Thinking about travel, but why, might as well stick close to home. For over 10 years now, he's been waiting for death, instead of living!
What do you think about day after day? What do you reinforce, in your mind, that must be important to you (because you think of it so much)?
You may *hate* the topic you think about (or worry about) and yet because the thought is there, over and over, your subconsciously helps you to remember the negative when it really only harms you.
Let's say you don't like retirement. You think about "uggg retirement" over and over.
What do you do?
You break that Stinking-Thinking pattern as soon as you can. DUMP that Old Programming.
Your subconscious mind thinks you hate retirement as you emphatically think it over and over. Now, you must replace that mindset with something better.
Find a new interest to make life full of discovery and wonder again! Be curious!
Help someone, anyone, so you begin to focus on others and not on yourself. In the winter cold, help another older senior put groceries in their trunk. Simple simple. You will feel a warm-fuzzy glow from helping someone.
Start a gratitude journal. Write a few things you are grateful for, every single morning. Do this every day. Get your mindset looking for good in your life instead of being stuck on negative thoughts of retirement.
You are what you think. Think GOOD!
If you don't really understand this, that's ok. Give me time to help you little by little!