I am so nervous about retiring
(New York, New york)
My husband (59) and myself (55) plan to retire to Naples, florida next year where we have owned a condo for 15 years so we know the community.
However, we don't have any friends there our age. Why am i so nervous and anxious? Why can't i look forward to this new phase of life?
I have worked my entire life and we did not have children so i guess my work had a more important place in my life.
Please let me know how you have dealt with this. thanks.Wendy: My two cents.. after 36 years with one employer, I was REALLY anxious to retire. I worried and thought about it over and over (AND Retirement was my occupation too!)
However, all of a sudden, I KNEW IT WAS RIGHT -- I gave notice and I walked out that door. Guess what? NO REGRETS!
I am happy, content, and totally done with work
(except here on my website).
Now, to be honest, this doesn't happen with everyone. It also doesn't mean I won't fall into a retirement transition depression down the road.
What I think -- You will KNOW when its right. I heard this over and over for years from retirees, and never quite "got it" until I knew it was right for me.
I pray that happens to you too!
To Joan. Boy wish you lived by me! I am 58 and retired in 2008 and have to say I hate it!
My husband is still working. Have no friends around here my age to hang around with. All my friends I do have all have grandchildren and spend all their time with them!
I wish I had some female friendship. I end up sitting around and crying. I worked almost 38 full years so don't want to work anymore.
All my family is gone. Never had kids either.
You mentioned Naples. My uncle lived down there. I went to visit him. Too hot for me there!
The bottom line is if you retire alone and have no friends or family retirement really stinks.
Is there anyone else out there that feels like I do?