Before Retirement, Anxiety and Depression often hit like a brick wall. It doesn't matter whether we choose retirement (voluntary), or if our exit is involuntary (layoffs, downsizing, disability)... this strange emotion pops it's ugly head.
Anxiety bites many of us before we even retire! Why is that?
We've waited for years to finally find our blissful retirement years... and then anxiety jumps out to ambush us!
We should be happily stepping into a new challenge and phase of life -- a time of our own, and yet -- we are afraid.
Before you retire, you have many options you might want to consider. Simply considering retirement issues might take the anxiety to a lesser level if you being to understand your options... instead of letting them roll around in you mind. Small issues become big issues. Right?
Your retirement decision can bring on anxiety and many sleepless nights... help yourself and register for my retirement workshops!
But you don't have to just sit there, couch-potato-like, there is much you can do to move forward in life. My book, Retirement Anxiety, Stress & Depression: Be Gone!, shares many retiree stories written by those who have " been there and done that" before you.
Now, Tell me -- HOW does a person make the mental adjustment to "walk out the door" and retire? I was employed for 36 years with the same employer. I was eligible to retire for four years... and yet, I continued to work. WHY?
Even funnier, even though I worried about my own anxiety and depression (assuming it happened)... this was my job! I could help others retire and yet -- I can't retire myself worry!
I have done pre-retirement planning workshops for 20 years now, and now it's ME who can't quite retire? AND -- if someone who KNOWS retirement, has thought about it for years (not just in terms of freedom) and I still had fears, just know - IT'S NOT JUST YOU!
I was consumed with the dream of my retirement. I have many hobbies, love working on my websites, and yet... scared to walk away from work, like so many of you with anxiety before retirement.
Anxiety and worry are all about future events -- many of which never ever happen. All that anxiety simply makes you mentally or physically ill! What a waste of your precious time and energy!
Start Thinking.... Stop Worrying!
This book from Amazon could greatly help you... A New Earth has really helped me to find peace... Retirement Peace! I kid you not... I love this book! It's not about retirement, it's about serenity and peace in life. Contentment in life.
My copy is well used, highlighted the important parts, and just very well read. Plus, if you did really want to understand how to find peace in your life, there are weekly lessons on Oprah.com on this book. Folks worldwide tuned in to ask questions on the books concepts... to find their own peace in life. It was a huge online workshop in 2008 and the author will explain part you didn't quite get.
For a few dollars, I really truly think you can find peace and contentment in your own retirement, like I did!
You worked at least eight hours a day, plus your commute, what will you DO after you retire?
You aren't retired yet -- so consider that question deeply.
If you have a To Do List or many hobbies and interests, no problem. But if you retire and fall off the retirement cliff -- asking Who Am I and What Do I DO Every Day? BIG problem.
Many boomers will choose to work part-time... just getting out of the house, gaining some income, keeping busy during the retirement transition phase, and maybe even a bit of simple socializing!
Might your employer allow a phased retirement? You work less hours while they get to keep a seasoned employee working for them? You might also be a consultant in your same field.
Personally, I grab my laptop, and start working online! It's a perfect "job" for me!
You might also consider volunteering, taking classes and lots more. There is so much to do in retirement... if you care to keep busy and find purpose in life.
Problem is -- we get wrapped up in our anxiety (leading to even bigger depression). Don't Do That!
Get out of your home and do something -- really anything!
Now, how do you get past the negative self-talk and anxiety associated with the decision of retirement?
While we are excited about the possibilities and freedom of retirement -- why do we lie awake worrying about whether we are making the right decision? AND, if you were anxious during the retirement decision, imagine if you can't get past it in retirement.
Imagine if you decide, after retirement, that you did the wrong thing and you become depressed in retirement? You didn't do the wrong thing. You will retire at some point, we all do... change your mindset and move into your new life!
Look at retirement as a change in pace, a new challenge in life, new life options... don't allow yourself to fall into that retirement depression rut!
Positive Affirmations for Retirement can change your mindset!
Finally, before my own retirement, many retirees gave me the same advice, over and over. Oddly enough, they all use the exact same words. It's their mantra.. only they don't realize they ALL say it. What is IT?
"You'll know when it's right... "
Oh my, such simple advice... and I do believe they are right!
It happened to me. I continued to work, unsure of when I'd feel good about the retirement decision. Suddenly, out of the blue, I gave my two week notice. I had always imagined giving one-month notice... but when I finally decided, I was out the door much sooner!
No need to wait until the retirement angel taps me on the shoulder and whispers into my ear:
"Pssssst! It's time, you can retire, it's the right time...."
It came suddenly, I knew in my heart it was the right time to walk away and start my new life... and I did it!
If you'd like to read my own retirement story, read on here!
I'd love to hear from you... how did YOU make the decision to "walk out the door" and retire?
Your comments will help others to think about retirement, before leaping into retirement. Please share what happened to you so that you can be helped and your story helps others!
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